The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Luckily, Al-anon is free therapy :) We are here because of the effects of alcoholism, but are really here for ourselves. I "realized I'm no different then anybody else in need of help" this little phrase helps me realize we are not alone and all here together to help each other get up again. "Prays" for you.
P.S. About 3 Al-Anoners that I know, became Al-anon because they were referred by a psychologist, go figure
-- Edited by RoseODAT on Tuesday 29th of October 2013 05:27:13 PM
Well today for some reason life is hard to manage for me with AH not working unable to get to my Therepy today due to know health insurance . I am very down in the dumps today . I said my serenity pray every half an hour for me to accept I can't change the current situation , that I can't how much our lives had changed since recovery . I feel like ground hog day , I feel like I never went to sleep and I can't control my emotions today. I called some places today to get assistance and the way I was treated was not what I exspected . I guess I thought ppl would feel Some kind of sorry for me, I guess what I'm trying to say I was exspecting some form of pity for me today, but realized I'm no different then anybody else in need of help . Really why would I want to toss my pity on anyone and why am I looking for it? All I'm gonna do is swim in it then realized crap I need to get rid of this , where can I drop off . I know it doesn't make sense I had to toss it out there . I new I find a place to drop my pity off thank you Alaon for accepting my pity and tossing it out for me . I will keep comming back :)
Some days we get up and all hell is breaking loose and other days all is fine. Some days we have pity parties and others we rejoice for what we have accomplished. That's why we take it one day at a time and don't look forward and don't look back. We stay in the moment and work on what's in front of us.
I find when I'm in my pity party mood it really doesn't last too long. I can cry and say "why me God" and usually God will give me what I need to get through it.
Coming here also helps a great deal doesn't it? We can support you and help bring you out of that pit..
Take care my friend.....you will make it....we all do
(((( hugs ))))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Some days are much rougher than others. You're feelings are normal responses to your environment, but, with tons of practice, we can make other choices. Feeling badly is ok and the program helps us dwell in the solution rather than in pity. You're doing a great job of working the program, keep on doing the next right thing.
There's up days and there's down days. Up days we keep and keep them going; down days we change to up days and then keep them going. I use to be good at doing the "poor mes" until I got sick of the whinning and some one asked me "do you want some cheese with that whine"? I pouted just before I broke out laughing. Absurd. Stay on and in your program...its a good one. I also know what RoseODAT says to be true...this therapy is free and it works when you work it. ((((hugs))))
I can really relate to thinking people will pity me and treat me kinder or something. I have been there, and still go to that place. There is awareness now though. I can look at those feelings and ask if they are serving me well. seems that is what you are doing too. We are not victims, we are survivors. what we put out in the world is what we get back... if we put out woe is me attitude, we get more and more reasons to feel sorry for ourselves.. if we put out I am strong attitudes we get more and more feelings like that... we become that strength.. fake it til we make it!!! when i start to try to get others to feel bad for me, when i victimize, or when i become the martyr, now I can look at that, I can ask why its there? I am not a bad person, I just do the best I can with what I have learned over the years. Al-anon teaches us a new way to see it all. Now, I can stop, pray for the removal of the thoughts, the tone of my voice, the pity party I'm throwing for myself in my mind... I can ask for it to be removed... whats left behind is so so beautiful.
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Michelle!
No one can take away your peace of mind unless you let them.
don't worry about being too depressed to sit with others (who understand perhaps better than few others can either) depression stems from lack of intimate (honest) communication either with ourselves with the alcoholics or with others who think and behave like alcoholics .. this is a thinking disease not just a drinking disease, seriously Doubt there are truly many at All on this planet . who have Never been effected by alcohol (isms) ..
