"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

POSITIVE PROJECTIONS

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Older and Wiser Gal...that is program for me today. It has been for a while and it works in conjunction with making program behavior the default or subconscious behavior. The philosopy of "It works when you work it is the key to the room"...When you work it and only it you can only have its consequences. (You don't get bread from a hardware store). Getting this program below the thinking level is what its about for me.

Great post and listening for others to share on it. (((hugs))) smile

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Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

Not doubting is my faith in myself and my higher power. They are partners!

Thinking positive is like a retraining of the brain, you just inindate yourself with positive material, my Buddhist practice and the material of Alanon, very uplifting. Its called developing a good attitude, Its all in the attitude.

I have a hard time being around negative people, its only for awhile and detaching comes in handy. I can feel Negativity from a mile away. Negativity is about the tapes that were played in your head when you were growing up. Filled with , you cant do it, your not good enough, your stupid, inept, I call it the Evil Twin, she tells me, its impossible. That evil twin has been gone for a long time.

I say nothing is impossible today! You have to work it, it doesnt happen naturally.

Hugs,

Bettina

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oldergal · Senior Member

What do you think of this? If we can project negative scenarios, consequences with mental pictures and words and feelings even in color (which takes time and energy), why can't we project, words and feelings, pictures in our minds of good outcomes, sensible happenings. What and or who is stopping us from doing this, learning this, unprogramming the negative self talk. I think these bad projections terrorize us, stops us from moving, freeze us. None of us deserve this....

Anyone had success with positive projections? What did you do? Would love to hear your ESH. Thanks Oldergal

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

I project pictures of my son with a great job again, driving his new car, having a great place to live and enjoying life. Snow Skiing in Flagstaff and going to Rocky Point Mexico during the summer. Calling his mom every couple of months asking me how I am and coming over for visits with his girlfriend and taking us out to dinner. His mom would be happy living the good life with vacations and visits to her sisters home on the river for water skiing and boating again. Going out in the evening for dinner and gambling

But I think it's only dreaming at this point......but it did make me feel good for a moment

(((( hugs ))))

oldergal · Senior Member

Hey Cathy, never knew you had such beautiful dreams and not too far out or unattainable! Keep them in the FRONT of your mine, add some photos on your office walls....Why Not! Here is a famous quote for you to read more than once and maybe print out.

If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with success unexpected in common hours.
Henry David Thoreau

oldergal · Senior Member

Bettina wrote:

Yes, Oldergal, we can. I have posted before, we are what we think.

If you project positive scenarios and positive outcomes, your actions will follow.

I can honestly say, I have positive thoughts 90% of the time.

Just remember we cannot change the negative actions of others, but when a negative occurs, we have the postive outlook to overcome that obstacle and look at it from a more positive perspective and move forward not dwelling on it.
However, the biggest obstacle in our lives I believe, is doubt and not believing in our own power along with our HP is empowerment.
Good question

Bettina

Bettina, 90% is impressive, how did you stop doubting yourself and how did you start believing in your own power? Sincerely interested, Respectfully, Oldergal

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canadianguy · ~*Service Worker*~

Words can be used for two things - to either "build up", or to "break down"...

tortuga · Senior Member

Hey, I won't say much. Good post and kicking in some thinking. Just two quotes come to my mind:

'If you never chase your dreams, you will never catch them.' if we don't start, we cannot reach, so better start today, and give us the best chances to reach some day....it's about hope more than about 'expectations'. and yes, especially , no bread at the hardware store.

'Don't let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of yours.' Basically I found out that i tended to let a lot of negative thinking people surround me, and as a co-dependent, that of course affected me a lot. I have that disease of co-dependency, yes. But I am generally a positive thinker. So 1, I need to work my program to work against co-dependency and towards healing myself, and 2, stay at a big distance to negative thinker...simply because they are not good for me in recovery. And A's are quite negative thinkers, drama creators, and blamers, for they cannot face ALL their emotions, at life terms...and dreaming and pursuing a dream is always allowed, words+ ACTION..... the A in my life didn't give it much action, only words...and I gave up some of my dreams due to that too....

the minute I distanced myself from that negative fearful person, I was being me much more again, with my dreams and hopes....and it's doable because I have done it before...I know what it feels like when dreams come true. It's practice, keeping the head up, hopes up, heart open.

Attitude of gratitude...basically ATTITUDE is everything!

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"