WEll, I think I posted about a month ago that my A brother was AWOL for a while and I think I mentioned the other day that he was still AWOL.....I was right...he went on another bender....bad one this time...he got caught driving drunk....The police officer was touched by his honesty so he let him get his money out of his truck, call the tow truck guy to tow his truck...then took him to jail....

next day his friend bailed him out and he has a pub. defender handling the "loss of license" issue and he has court tomorrow....

He did take responsibility for his action, but DANG, his friend bailed him out...."R" is so charming and popular, he has soo many enablers....

He said he didn't tell me about it b/c he was ashamed and embarrassed and did not want to give me anymore bad news b/c of my inability to find work....

tomorrow he goes to court and pub. defender thinks that b/c he was honest about DUI and cooperated and its the first time he got CAUGHT, he will most likely pay a huge fine, have to go to "drinking an driving" class for , I forgot how long the course is, but then it will be over.....in TX...they wold have hammered him.....I know a kid who is out 12k  over his first DUI and he lost his license for a long time....

I don't get it....I was hoping court would make him do AA for amend..but they didn't do that

I called tonight on a hunch and was really surprised to hear him talk so sober and relieved that he was "ok"

He even said  " i know...I did this...Its my stupid fault..."  and then he goes on about how stupid he was not to squirt the toothpaste in his mouth when cop pulled him over.....these A's have all the tricks....my brother carries toothpaste on his dash and hes TELLING me this....he said cop arrested him b/c he stunk of alcohol...not b/c of any driving mistake...

I thought I "knew it all" being married to two of them  but I learned something from him tonight......so when I am driving down the road and I see a tube of toothpaste on a guys or gals dash board I am gonna wonder

He did take responsibility, but I see no desire to go to AA....I know he doesn't have that kind of $$$ and I wish folks would stop enabling him and lifting him over his consequences so he would realize that he needs help

but I am  powerless....I know I am not about to enable or help him out of alcohol caused jams.....I am gonna let him get his own self out....I just wish our friends wold realize that they are not helping him, not really...All they are doing is preventing him from realizing how screwed up and addicted he is and how badly he needs help.....enablers are his worst enemies, they mean well, but they are keeping him from learning the hard lessons he needs to learn if there is any hope of his getting help.....AND they could be helping him to his own death....I keep praying he is forced somehow to get help...to quit drinking and get into AA, to reach out and ASK for help and WORK AA program.....Thats all I can do is pray for him.....I am NOT putting my hands on this one

He asked me  "can I call U tomorrow and tell you what happened in court???"  I told him "sure..call me and let me know whats up".....

I don't want to lose another brother to self inflicted harm....BUT...I am POWERLESS.....another thing to give up to HP and another human being I MUST detach from, he is so sweet...I love him but I hate the friggin disease......

Thanks for letting me share....