I went from paralysis of analysis to an attitude of gratitude.

"Place me where you want me and tell me what to do".

You didn't Cause it, you can't Cure it and you can't Control it.

QTIP ~ Quit taking it personally 

Let Go and Let God

S-save
M-mother
O-obsess
O-own
T-take abuse
H-HP (be his or let him be your tin God)
E-expect
R-react

One Day at a Time

Easy Does It

He/She will either drink, or he/she won't.... what are YOU gonna do?

Try looking at your active A with a large SSS stamped on their forehead

Focus on the "whats", not the "whys" - the whys will kill ya...

Honesty got you there, tolerance keeps you there

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Dr. Suess

You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to.

God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

Think,Don't React

How Important Is It

When In Doubt Don't

No Is A Complete Sentence, Feel Good About Saying No

Listen And Learn

Fake It Till You Make It

Insanity "Doing the same things over and over again expecting different results".

"If I keep doing what I've always done I'll keep getting what I've always gotten."

"If it ain't broke...don't fix it".

G.O.D. - Good Orderly Direction

Listen and Learn...take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth. You have TWO ears and ONE mouth for a reason - use the ears twice as often as you use the mouth.

When you're confused about what you should do and where you should be, stand very still for a while and look down at your feet...that will tell you where you are at; next look directly above you and ask, "Where do you want me?" then listen with both of your ears.

The alcoholic is a sick person because they drink too much, what is my excuse. (enablers question).

what you think of me is none of my business

There is only one thing you need to change about yourself in Al-Anon... E V E R Y T H I N G.

Steps One thru Three condensed. "I can't - God can - I'll let Him"

The twelve steps condensed. Trust God - Clean House - Help Others.

When at first you don't succeed...call your sponsor.

Next time you're feeling smart and think you know the solution to the alcoholic's problem...Say out loud "I think you should..." and then listen quietly. Most often you can hear God laugh.

"Recovery isn't winning, it's not playing."

"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."

Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."

I refrain from practicing the 4 M's found in our literature which are:

Mothering

Manipulating

Managing

Matyrdom

I have a full life today that is worth living. I remain grounded in my recovery and keep the focus on me leaving the results up to my HP.

I also like "An expectation is a future resentment" or

If you're not a fortune teller...stay out of the future.

Having a resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.

Often times the answer to a prayer is No or Wait.

There is only one God...I'm not it and neither are you.

Most naturally what you get from carrying too much weight is a hernia.

Many people will not choose recovery because of the fear or the pain of surgery.

My experience has been that when I am unwilling to ask for help, and I insist that I can do it all myself, I'm just a drunk talking to a crazy person.

I thought I was so cool. Then my sponsor pointed out that the definition of "cool" is "not so hot."

None of us came here on a winning streak

"If you do not know where you are going, then any road will take you there."

"Minds are like parachutes. They only function when they are open"

If I can't be a good example then I will just have to serve as a horrible warning

Take the mess to your sponsor, the message to the meeting

Don't speak unless you can improve on silence

It is only a short jump from humility to senility

"I may only have one recovery in me. "

I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once

If it weren't for self-pity, I wouldn't get any

AA has a wrench that fits every nut that walks in the door

I'd rather have a frontal lobotomy than a bottle in front of me.

He who foresees calamities suffers them twice over.

I thought God would open up the "gates of heaven" and let me in. He didn't. He opened up the "gates of hell" and let me out.

No more taking the blame for someone else's drinking!
Be gentle with yourself
Don't worry about whether he's really an alcoholic
Don't pour out the booze
Learn to relax
Don't be afraid of losing him because you're changing
Stop arguing with him (it works!)
Do one thing every day just for yourself
Use tough love
Don't ride with him when he's drunk
Confront him!
Walk away from abuse
Accept yourself
Don't believe "Drunk Is Fun!"
Tell your families? Only if you want to!
Mean what you say and say what you mean
Deal with his arrogance!
Don't change your address!
Hide the car keys?
You have the right to get sick too!
Learn about blackouts
Try to remember it's a disease
Let the crises happen
No more lying to his boss!
Start to get help---- Even though he's the alcoholic
Stay with him or leave him "Just for today"
Break out of your isolation
Stop asking permission!
Act as if you love you
Put him in the back of your mind
Don't feel guilty when you're mad!
Forget his bad mouth
Don't say you're changing-----just do it
Stop telling him how to get sober (don't talk to brick walls, either)
Don't get scared when he threatens to drink
Wipe out saying, "you've been drinking again!"
Don't expect him to be sober
Stop checking the bars
Don't beg him to stay
Don't be scared that he will leave if he gets well
Getting Help
Sex and alcoholism

I have now reached a place on my journey where I will no longer tolerate unacceptable behavior.

I keep this surrender prayer when I need guidance, take what you like...
God, today is Your day.
may I be who You would have me be.
may I do what You would have me do.
may I go where You would have me go.
and say what You would have me say.