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Breakingfree


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Whenever I get back home to California we see each other and catch up and my 15 year old sees her 14 year old second cousin Victoria. Well today I read on facebook from a family member that my cousins were in the Arizona desert riding 4 wheelers, which they often do in the summer and Victoria had an accident and broke her neck and died. She was such a sweet girl and both her parents are alcoholics and I am sure they were drinking while the kids were off racing and doing their thing. I don't believe alcohol was at fault here but, I am just frustrated. Every parents worst nightmare came true for them and in my highly dysfunctional family we have lost so many cousins to drinking and drug accidents it is so sad. My 15 year old comes home tomorrow and I will have to give her a hug she will never forget, same with my 5 year old, but she still loves cuddling with me. I also made the mistake of watching my neighbors 2 month old and 7 year old tonight so she could run out for an hour at 10 p.m. and at 12:45 she shows back up with some guy that is not the kids dad and stinking of alcohol, I told her this was the first and last time I watch her kids, she gave some lame excuse and I said well that's too bad goodnight. I did set a boundary and told her I work in the am and she had exactly one hour, now she burned that option! I will admit it was nice holding her new little guy and I got my baby fix. Sometimes this world pisses me off and hurts me all at the same time. I try to be a nice person and give a mom a break from her kids and I get misused. I go on facebook and read the unimaginable happened to my closest cousin who lived with us growing up for 5 years of my life and my heart just aches. I could not have planned these things, but they happened and now I just need to ruminate and move through the emotions. It is late I am going to bed and hopefully waking up to a far prettier world and with a better perspective!



 



-- Edited by Breakingfree on Sunday 28th of July 2013 01:14:33 AM

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I'm so sorry.  So many tragedies.  We need all the strength we can get.  {{{Hugs}}}



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So so sorry. What a tragedy.


Prayers that they will find peace

((( hugs )))


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Sorry to hear about your cousin.

Tomorrow will be better!!!!

Take care of yourself.

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I am so sorry for you loss of a family member and loved one.  I will hold you in my thoughts and keep you wrapped in prayers.

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I'm sorry to learn of your loss and of your family's loss as well. Good that the children had a sober adult to tend to them while the mother went out to drink. Makes me sad for all the kids you've mentioned - even the big ones in adult suits. Blessing prayers for you and members of your family.
Blessing prayers for your neighbors, too.

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So sorry for your loss, Breakingfree. Its always a sad thing when we lose a young person. We have lost a dear boy two years ago in our community to an ATV accident, and almost lost the young girl who was riding with him. The ATV landed on her and she was in the hospital most of that summer. She has now completely healed, but will be affected by that accident for the rest of her life. Our community is doing a "Corn for Cole" drive and his family has set up a Memorial fund for their son "Cole". It is a wonderful way to remember the boy... helping others.

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So very sorry to read of tis new tragedy.  Thoughts and prayers are on the way



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I'm so sorry for your loss.  It's so tragic when we lose any family member but even sadder when it's a child.  Very easy to understand how you can't wait to see your own girl again and hold her close. 

Good boundary with the neighbor.

Wishing you a day filled with serenity today.

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So very sorry for your loss, I know it's hard to lose a loved one especially when they are so young. Praying for peace and serenity for you today. HUGS!

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I am so very sorry for your loss. What a tradegy!

Prayers and hugs surround you!

So sad

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OMG Breakingfree....

This is such horrific news...

I am so sorry for you loss and will pray for all of you!

Prayers & hugs to you



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Breakingfree,

:( Very sorry to hear for your and your loved ones loss. It's so heartbreaking when a child passes like this. My sincerest condolences to you...

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SO sorry for your loss...What a tragedy......sending you comfort hugs



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oh honey I am so sad for all involved. Too much world crap/reality for you too. I hope you feel a lighter. I liked your attitude a lot in this share.

sending hugs,debilyn



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Deepest sympathy to you and yours.
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So sorry breakingfree - tragic news- the loss of a young person is always so difficult, the thought of unfilled potential is so hard to deal with ( my 20 yr old nephew was lost in a road accident in feb of this year )

Wishing much love to you and yours at this very sad time x

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I am so sorry for such a tragic loss.  Prayers....



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(((((For her and her family)))))....May HP receive her as a gift.  smile



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BF, I'm praying for all of you, and I love Jerry's sentiment, so I'll echo it. May HP receive her as a gift.

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My precious friend, please know I feel your pain and sorrow from this loss.  I will keep you and yours in prayer.  Know that where she is going others will one day follow and all will meet up once again with smiles.  Bless you for your kindness and wisdom in setting and clearly stating boundaries with the woman who misused your kindness tonight.  Know that your integrity shines through.  



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