And my eldest son will be in attendance along with my program and without unnecessary mention our Higher Power.  His house is out of order...a shambles...looking like an old cabin long forgotten in the deep woods; abandoned.  He has lived the metaphor of a life forgotten, undone, trashed and I will not make believe that he doesn't know and is blind.  I got a call this afternoon from my daughter-in-law, his wife who left and went back home to family (traditionally and severely addicted) who said she will be coming here Friday to start closure on her past with him and make effort to move on into her own life.  I am reserving emotions, working first at the acceptance of the reality of this which started 25 years ago.  He will come for dinner and I will stay out of any conversation about the "mess" and that if he must talk about the "mess" he has to go do it somewhere else.   We are not responsible for the blast and therefore the fallout.  They created it "inspite" of anyone else might as well fix it the same way.  He actually has not and will not direct a conversation toward me which might possibly be the result of experiencing my boundaries  to things about him he insists on acting out with.  It is freeing not to take the bait and then set the hook into myself.  He is not my higher power...not even close.  He can be the main actor on the stage tonight and then I don't have to and won't attend the play.

I'm grateful to all of you, my MIP family and the Al-Anon Family Groups for my serenity...it will not be forfited.   Mahalo Akua.   (((((hugs)))))