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havent posted for a bit, but still very active al anon member. Love this site wanted to pop in, it has saved my sanity so many times and helped me to clarify my thoughts and feeliings.
I am currently starting step 9 aand have just made amends to Hp, I am now starting my amends to myself WOW finding this difficult. Still bits of self blame and resentment lingering any ESH on making mends to ones self would be gratefully appreciated.
On a more positive not I am flying to Vancouver on 3rd July for the Al anon world convention soooooo excited is anyone else going??? One way of making amends to me, then on 7th I am cruising around Alaska before returing home to Liverpool in England. Hope evryone is well on here.
Just want to share with newcomers that this really does work my life today is getting better and better thanks to these amazing people.
hugs tracy xxxxxx
-- Edited by Tracy on Friday 7th of June 2013 05:07:40 AM
I am nowhere near step 9 but you mentioned LIverpool and I happen to be there today visiting my mum and it made me want to respond.
When I was at a meeting a little while back, the topic of shame came up and I shared that I felt ashamed that I had gotten myself into a second messy co dependent relationship (rueful LOL and rolley eyes). I shared that I had forgiven myself largely for the one I got into as a much younger woman but I found it hard to accept that I had done it again many years later. (the other inbetween were also not that healthy but at least I didn't live with them) A kind al anon member shared with me after the meeting her E/S/H that she had gotten into a destructive relationship with an alcoholic and that she had come to view this as a necessary step because it had revealed to her all the stuff lurking underneath what she had assumed to be a together facade. It really helped me to take a step towards dropping some of the anger, resentment and shame I have towards/about myself - I am really trying to be much kinder to myself since. I have been going for some massage treatments and when I'm there I buy myself a little something like nice bath stuff or soap or things like that. (lots more amends I can make towards myself I reckon)
Glad that you are growing and giving yourself permission to have fun
I made amends to myself by:
Continuing to attend meetings, read the alanon literature daily, continuing to work with my sponsor and supporting my sponsees. I stayed focused on my life, stopped comparing, gossiping, judging, blaming, othersas well as myself. I began to exercise, eat right, meditate daily and made sure I got 8 hours of sleep at night.
These were powerful amends to myself which I continue to this day.
So glad to see an update! Yes, things have gotten better for me too the longer I work my al-anon recovery program, funny how that works. I wish I was going to Vancouver, but I am taking an accelerated science class I can't miss. Sending you much love and support!
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Thanks, Tracy, for updating us. Yes, it does "work when you work it." Happy that your life continues to be blessed and that you are still working your program.
((((Tracy)))) and ((((Ms S)))) good stuff!! Making amends to HP...I've been around for a long time and have not; I don't think or remember, actually doing that mostly thinking that HP is so "H" that what I have done and failed to do wouldn't cause the relationship any harm...Of course it did!! Gonna think and write about this one and ask HP for feedback. May see my sponsor at a meeting tomorrow morning and ask for feedback from him also...and others. Mahalo for the consideration and your Experience. Ms S...Mahalo also...that for me describes "Searching and Fearless" (((((hugs))))) to you both.
Love your post and all the progress you're making, excited for you to join in the world meeting in Vancouver will be excited to hear all the good truths and messages you have to share upon your return. Congrats with working on your step 9 (not there yet so can't give personal input). Ultra glad you are back to posting here. Keep it coming, I look forward to your future shares.
