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So I have been praying for this for many years, my son to have a better life than what he had. I am sincerely happy for him, but feeling a little selfish, because now that he is sober and I can enjoy a "real" person, he is leaving the area and will be 12 hours away, This is all good stuff, but I can't convince my emotions....he got a great job and housing is cheaper where he is going.
:( your kind words of wisdom would be appreciated. The beat will go on, just feeling sad today....Oldergal
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Don't Worry About Growing Old, It Is A Privilege For Some Of Us.....
To finally have this day when your child can finally move on with his life is the greatest gift God can give to a mother. I'm so happy for you. I'm also so happy for him because he had the courage and strength to arrest his disease and take care of himself. What more can you ask for. You have your son back even if he's not right there with you.
Really 12 hours away isn't that far and the times you are with your son will be so much more precious and grateful to have. Time to get Skype on your phones so you can see him when talking.
((( big hugs ))))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Oldergal, we sometimes refer to moves in early sobriety as "doing the geographical." This has mixed results because 1. Wherever we go - there we are (we take ourselves with us and any problem we haven't worked on also). 2. It's stressful to be in a new place. On the flip side, a fresh start in a new area avoids old triggers which include all the old people, places, and things. 3. People forget that it's usually the AA program that keeps them sober in the long run so they stop going to meetings in the new area or never even start. In many ways this move does allow for him to stop being a boy and grow into a man. It makes it harder to run to you if he fails and that's actually not a bad thing. My parents are 1000 miles away from me. Our relationship is better now than when I lived close by and this is because I am no longer the screw up kid that needs ongoing parenting into my 30s/40s. I pray your son is on a similar trajectory in his recovery.
