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Debilyn


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I called him this morn. He was quiet and listened. He says things will change, as far as his situation. I said for now I cannot do this.

He was very sweet,gentle and asked me what he can do. Of course I told him I cannot make him change things. That is up to him.

He wanted to call me tonight. I adamently said no please please do not.

 

I feel like I am dying. I feel like its all coming apart. I don't and have never give this much. Over time I really trusted in us.  This frightening nothingness, am so sick.

I cannot face being alone another day or hour. I am asking hp to please help me. fed everyone, going to take a shower and go to bed.

HOnestly do not want to wake up anymore.

thank you for being the place I can get real help and guidance.thank you specially to John



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When I feel like this I think of what I've got rather than what I don't. It's so hard when things don't work the way we want and we who are affected by alcohol don't cope well with dissapointment. Focus on you, go to meetings and know that this too will pass.x

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I used sleep for a long time to deal with overwhelming feelings....it's healthier than other ways to escape..do what you gotta do to slog through this.

Spend time with your critters. I know this may sound obvious...but it really does help...

I couldn't even listen to music, because every song made me howl. 

The heat and intensity of this pain will help you gain even greater clarity...I know, small consolation when it hurts like hell.

Debilyn...breathe...and please...keep checking in here...

With you in spirit...

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(((( Debilyn ))))

For two years I grieved and isolated myself because of a relationship. He went with someone else and left me to die. My life was over I thought. Time and a lot of work on my part brought me back. Gave me a life again. It wasn't easy and there were days I didn't want to live anymore but then one day I said...WTF Why am I destroying myself over some jerk that used me. What's wrong with me to think this way. I found I didn't want to be alone, I thought I needed him to complete me. I needed this man.

Now 20 years later I'm in the same boat and here we go again. I think I need him in my life.? This time....hell no " I won't do this anymore" I will pick myself up, dust myself off and move on. I will be lonely at first but that is so much better than living a lie within myself. Friends will come and maybe a partner again but I will NEVER live in a relationship that does not give back. Friend or no friend, love or no love....it's just not worth it anymore.

Rest and take time to think about what you want and how you can make it better for you.....not what someone else can/cannot give you.

Only you can take care of you.....

(((( hugs ))) and prayers for your heartache inside

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Yes, stay with us and when you feel like calling him, post instead.  Do you have a sponsor?  ...and good for you for laying it on the line for him.  I won't take his inventory, but I will say your animals are better companions for you right now!



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Deb, I've said a prayer for you! I know  God's presence will be with you during this painful time.  One question?  Where is he on the board?  I was thinking he is also an al-Anoner! 

Love you! and will continue to keep you in my prayers.

Gettingitright!! 



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Your's does too Deb... only a heart that is fully alive and vibrant can feel the way you are feeling...

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Try not to inflict the whole male population with the distrust created by others... Millions of us were nowhere around when you were hurt by (insert name(s))

Just hearing and feeling your pain, makes my inner child make this face...

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And all it would take to put a smile back on his face is if you'd flirt with me as much as you do Pink-o-Mark!  LOL

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But hey, I know its hard to take a joke when you feel like the world is falling apart around you, and definitely inside you but...

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They feel the pain at the same place they love from... the core of their being.  And the change feels horrible.

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But then too, you have many solid friends like me...

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And I'd send that guy a bottle of nasal spray at CVS or Walgreens immediately!

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cuz his immature, inconsiderate, manipulative behaviors are hurting my friend!

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So, in closing... just hold on and let go... okay, let go and hold on... damn this stuff gets confusing!

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And remember... if you call him "stupid"... you'll have to make an amends...

I would suggest you send this to him as such...

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And when you are really feeling down, completely empty, struggling to breath... 

imagine my inner child talking to yours...

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Bunches...

John

 



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I couldn't say it nearly as well as did the other posters, but I'm here praying that you'll find relief from the hurt sooner than later.

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I am sending you so much love and support! And if John's post didn't tickle your funny bone I am unsure what will. You are a fun and spunky lady don't forget how resilient you are! You deserve only the best and if he is offering you less than that it's his loss!

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((((Debilyn))))  This Too....will pass.  smile



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