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Wow.....not even 24 hours after getting out of Detox........he's drinking and calls me to boot.
Anyways.......I had a great time tonight at my Woman's Group meeting.
PS: I don't know why I posted this. I guess I was a little upset him calling me in the middle of the night accusing me of coming into his apartment and taking stuff. Now that's a first.
My AS is getting sicker and sicker everyday. What a shame.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Thanks for the support again and again. Your all the best. I know its a new level of paranoia to accuse me. He thinks people are in his apartment taking things.......Nope.....he just misplaces them. In the past I would go over there and find where he hid them 99% of the time. Now he's on his own.
I was upset because he woke me up and now all day I will be tired....lol I need my beauty sleep you know. I guess I answered it because I just knew he was fresh out of Detox so he couldn't be drunk already. My bad......
Oh well on with my day... (((( hugs ))))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Cathy - I'm wondering if that accusation was a set up. You have stopped fawning over him and freaking out about him so he calls you and tries to get you to freak out about something and pay attention to him again. He lacks the skills to just get attention the right way and to simply ask you for it. OR....maybe he is just reaching a new level of paranoia. Maybe both.
Amazed by how well you are working your program....
I know those calls. God knows what my son was on when he made them. Many prayers for guidance, strength and serenity for you. Many prayers of healing support for your son.
Sending love and support. So glad you are taking care of you!!
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
To paraphrase some words of a song written by Jamie Rickert - "Stand your ground. God is watching. Stand your ground against the night. Till the darkness passes over, stand your ground. Stand your ground." The song is based on the OT story of the escape of the Hebrews from slavery in Egypt. Standing in the light and health of your program may be the best thing in the world for your son as his HP works to deliver him from bondage, too?
I agree with pinkchip; the accusation sounds like a manipulation technique...our As are not used to not getting the attention, good or bad. My thoughts and prayers are with you
I'm doing surprisingly well. No fear, no stomach and heart jumping. Just another day with a drunk son. I wait until the money is all gone from the car sale so he doesn't have rent and has to deal with being homeless. Now that will be a crisis....so lets see how I do.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Sorry to hear this, my A's are still active and headed downhill too, but I am staying as dettached as possible. You work a great program! Sending you much love and support on this jouney!
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Hi Cathy
So sorry to read this news. It is maddening, I know. My AH has accused me of lots of crazy things like that. Diasabling his email account (he was just too drunk to type the login). Pink is right, just another attempt to pull you back into the tornado. Just keep doing the next right thing. God bless.
Hope springs eternal....until they dash it, yet again. I am so proud of how well you are doing Cathy....you are doing just what you should be....and if and when it gets worse, you will be up to the challenge.....I just know it!!
