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I'm so sorry dponlyme. I wish I had some good ESH to give you.
In my thoughts right now and little prayer your wife will seek help. My son is in crisis right now and I have stepped aside and let him work through it. No more helping him no matter what happens. I have let go and let God take over for me. That's all I can do
Take care of you my friend....take care of you.
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
From the closing statement of our face to face meetings..."...if you keep and open mind; you will find help". Wander around with an open mind and keep your self ready to practice, practice, practice. ((((hugs))))
Thanks for the support... makes this lost feeling a little more tolerable. Sleeping on the floor tonight. Was feeling all alone... pity party crashed by wonderful alanoners.
dponlyme ...please don't pathologize what you are going through...we have all gone through feeling rudderless and lost as what to do or even think. It is a normal reaction to the crazy situation we have all been in.
When I feel like this...I remind myself that is okay to "not know" and given what I have made it through already, I have to trust that I can figure things out one day at a time. Beating on myself for not knowing exactly what to do, well it just added to the shame I felt for being in the situation to begin with...
Sometimes we don't know what to do. I have been lost many times...I have used it as a chance to rest..and focus on the next right thing I need to do.
Know that feeling lost is part of the process...do you really think there is a life manual? that any one of us has answers? Be kind to yourself...clarity will come...just sometimes it's not as quickly as we may like! (MAKE THIS FEELING GO AWAY RIGHT NOW, PLEASE!). Yah, sometimes life is uncomfortable...and for me, not knowing which way to turn is the WORST. But, it's part of life.You will get to the other side of this...
Oh, and if you know anyone who thinks they have it all figured out...be afraid, be very afraid (of that person).
Go get an air mattress, a nice thick one just for you. Let us know how it works out. You'll still be on the floor somewhat right?...and then not quite and it will be much softer and your deserve it right?...crashing your pity party...YAY!! ((((hugs))))
-- Edited by Jerry F on Thursday 9th of May 2013 11:44:42 PM
