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Actually Jiim that is a good idea and not funny as I see it.
I always have a moment of silence and the serenity prayer before each important interview.
The time and prayer are for me not anyone else. It helps to center me, let me go within, find my HP and the confidence I need. Just as it does when I share at a meeting.
-- Edited by hotrod on Wednesday 8th of May 2013 08:12:23 PM
-- Edited by hotrod on Thursday 9th of May 2013 07:58:16 AM
I have a few interviews scheduled for next week. It's been a while since I have had to go on one and I am now remembering how nervous these type of situations make me even though I am confident in my ability to handle the job itself and usually do much better at these type of things than I envision. It just takes everything I have to suck it up and just do it. One, in particular has me tense because it involves a city government position and I will be interviewed by more than one person. Every socially phobic person's nightmare-in the spotlight while people watch. I thought these days were over for me but the reality is they are back and even more important than ever now that my husband is not functuonal enough to hold a job and is running through his IRA. So not where I wanted to be at this time in my life. I just wanted to be foster parenting and making a nice home for my family. Ugh... what is God thinking? So disappointed in my AH today. I need him and he just isn't capable of being there. I'm tired of being strong even though I know I have to be. Glad you all are here to vent to.
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"Just being there for someone can sometimes bring hope when all seems hopeless." - Dave G. Llewellyn
Here's how I handle group interviews: This is an opportunity for me to have these people's undivided attention as they hear me talk about myself. What other time in life do we get to do this? Just relax and let them know how awesome you are and how well suited you would be for the position. It's your chance to shine and to let others know how great an employee you would be for any organization. That's just my two cents as someone who has been on both sides of the interview table. You'll do great if you believe in yourself before you even walk into the room.
To ease your nerves, remember that the people interviewing you, at one time sat in that same chair you will be sitting in. Not only are they interviewing you, but you are also there to interview THEM. Walk in with the mentality that you are there to see if it's a place that you want to work and not like you're begging for a job. They'll sense that.
Also, people say the dumbest stuff in interviews. If you don't know an answer to a question, say so !
Just be honest and do some practice questions the night before.
I'm hopefully going to be in a similar situation (multiple interviews ) soon. My stomach is tied in knots just thinking about it. Sending my prayers for a good job offer for you. Good luck.
I hate that "hell in the hallways" feeling .. it's one of my favorite says .. If one door closes another will open .. it's hell in the hallways waiting on that window.
What Betty said about taking a breath and praying .. works wonders .. asking my HP for the words I need, for the highest good of all concerned, in any given situation makes a HUGE difference.
Sending you love and support!!
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I was laid of from my job 3 weeks ago so in the past two weeks I have gone on several interviews. I am normally very shy and dread interviews. I find what helps me is to not think about the interview too much before it happens. I do some basic research on the company and then I try not to think about it again. I used to do tons of preparation. That just gave me anxiety and I did poorly at the interview. Even though I really need a job now I tell myself the interview is not that important and I am relaxed and perform much better at the interviews.
Thanks for all the support and tips. I did end up calling my husband to talk to him. Funny how the one who is causing the pain is still someone you want to turn to at times. Such a confusing disease. Btw, they called and moved the interview to Friday. I think I'm gonna puke. ;)
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"Just being there for someone can sometimes bring hope when all seems hopeless." - Dave G. Llewellyn
What your Higher Power is thinking is probably that you are pretty much an awesome creation and when you believe that you won't be so afraid of acting it out. You are you know...you know...you know. Go looking the mirror, I was told, and tell yourself "I love you"...Gawd!! what were these Al-Anoners thinking and suggesting and then I over came the fear of doing that and guess what I have come to love myself and learning how to do it even more as I stand up for me in the "out there". Can you do the job that they advertised for? If you can and if you already have...show them. Good Luck..((((hugs))))
