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My AH has been sober since November. Apparently, he decided to start drinking the last couple weeks. I cannot believe I missed it, but that is beside the point. Today his boss called him out on it at work and I am pretty sure he is going to get fired tomorrow. I am so scared about how we are going to get by if he gets fired. He feels so guilty and is at a meeting now, which is good. I just don't know what to do.
I'm sorry ec4244, I'd prolly miss it too cause addiction/alcoholism is such a tricky disease! Even if I'd catch it, there is nothing I can do about it. The only persons actions I have control over are my own. Good he's at a meeting & good you are here
I do understand the fear and anxiety that you are faced with. Glad that hubby is looking for support from his meetings and I would like to suggest that the best thing that you can do is make more alanon face to face meetings. Alcoholism is a progressive, disease which can be arrested but not cured We who live with the fear of this disease really need a program of recovery for ourselves . Search out more alanon face to face meetings, keep in touch with the group, call your sponsor, pray, keep the focus on living one day at a time and trust that this will work out
Keep coming here and sharing. You are in my prayers
What to do? This is what I did and I know this works. Go find the hotline number for Al-Anon in your area and give that number a call. Find out where and when we get together in your area and then come find your seat at the very first meeting you can. There is literature there and other friends, spouses and family members of alcoholics there and unconditional love and acceptance pluse so much experience, strength and hope you can get better on beyond your imagination. Keep coming back here also. (((((hugs)))))
I suspect my exA was fired because of drinking too. This was June 2010. When he came home that day, I remember vividly how panicked I felt.
We declared bankruptcy (which really was not the end of the world) and then divorced. I never dreamed I would have the cohonas to get to the other side of it, but I did, ODAAT.
Breathe. If the big picture got overwhelming for me, I tried to concentrate on the next thing I had to do.
I hope you are finding the time to take care of you. I have strong suspicions that my STBAX is headed that direction and it is sad to watch him go down that road. I have to let go and let God and know while this might not be in my immediate plans HP has a far better one for everyone involved.
The God of my understanding has a terrible wicked sense of humor and while in the immediate present I may not find it funny in a ha ha kind of way .. at some point I can sit back and go ah ha I did survive the tornado of addiction in spite of myself.
It is so normal to feel scared and alone in the whirlwind of this awful destructive disease .. you can find help and support both here on these boards and in the rooms of alanon.
Keep coming back,
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
