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1976love


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Without getting into specifics, I not only have a recovering AH, but other family members that get me "crazy" to my very core.  Today my phone rang (which was totally predictable because the other person has a responsibility that is always pushed off on someone else) and I didn't answer it!  I only need to focus on me, not everyone else's problems.  When the other person calls me, it starts out sweet and innocent and then the questions of can you do this for me.  NO (it's a complete sentence) I have enough on my plate and don't need yours too.  It felt so good not to pick up the phone.  They know if they really needed me I do also have a husband they could ask...and if you know that he will say no, don't come knocking at my door thinking the answer will change.  I am super proud right now.  I know not picking up the phone seems small and weak, but for me...I was finally sticking up for myself. 



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rehprof


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there's no law that I know of that you HAVE to answer the phone..smile..



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Cathyinaz


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I always thought I needed to answer and put up with the BS. Isn't it nice that you can say NO and let go.

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Sincerely


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good deal! love the way you took care of yourself!

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PP


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I love not answering the phone  Celebrate your success!



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LeenieBeanie


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Congratulations!!!  It's a revelation to know that we have such power over ourselves. And God Bless the inventor of caller ID biggrin



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el-cee


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Well done, its the start of freedom from the drama. I also dont answer the door from time to time. Thats also taking control over your serenity. Also, remember when you let them do it for themselves its actually giving them the dignity to take care of themselves and you protect your serenity.x

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rookie95


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Not picking up the phone is fantastic! Good for you!!!

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tiredtonite


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Great job practicing a healthy behavior.  I like the way you not only took care of yourself but didn't feel guilty for doing so. 



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Pushka


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Woot woot :) I bet you didn't even know you didn't have to answer that phone!! Good for you!!

Hugs P :)

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