Boyfriend in Rehab - have some questions - Al-Anon Family Group

rookie95 · Member

Boyfriend in Rehab - have some questions

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Act like yourself. He will either recover or not and it's not on you. It doesn't hurt to support and encourage his ongoing AA participation, but that is also his journey. Focus on you.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hello Rookie Welcome To Miracles in Progress

I am glad that your partner is seeking help. Alcoholism is a progressive fatal disease and anyone living with this disease also requires a program of recovery. Your partner has AA , and rehab Alanon is the recovery program for family members.

I have felt the same concern that you expressed and would like to suggest that the best you could do for yourself, your partner, and your relationship, is to search out alanon , face to face meetings in your community and attend

Help in finding a meeting can be obtained at the following web site:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html Or call: 1-888-4alanon

Online meetings are held in the Al-Anon chat room associated with this site 2xs a day.

Keep coming back here as well You are not alone

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Again Rookie

Many alanon meetings permit children. Call the intergroup number listed in the white pages and ask.

The on line meetings here are as follows:

(Morning Meetings)
Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time
Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern time

(Nite Meetings)
Mon -Saturday 9PM eastern time
Sunday 7PM eastern time

You can point your web browser at us at any time and join the room for general and supportive chat.
http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html

Please contniue to reach out You deserve recovery

-- Edited by hotrod on Friday 26th of April 2013 06:55:05 AM

rookie95 · Member

Thank you hotrod and pinkchip. I have been trying to get to an alanon meeting for a while, but the ones in my area are not at convenient times. :( I am a single parent and most of the meetings are during the day while I'm at work, or at night when I need to be home with my son. I attempted to go to a meeting once (that I found online), and it turned out that it was an NA meeting not an alanon meeting (as listed on the website). I felt so disappointed! Also, that same night that I attempted to go to the meeting, I left my boyfriend to babysit my son and when I came home he was drunk! :(

I am praying that he is serious about his recovery this time. He has told me several times in the past that he hates going to AA meetings. He says he feels like he is being judged. I have told him several times that I support his recovery, but that I am not an alcoholic so I don't understand what he is going through. He is always attempting to talk to me about what is going on, and I help as much as I can, but keep telling him that he needs a "friend" (sponsor) that he can talk to who actually understands what he feels.

When are these online meetings held? Maybe I can attend one of those instead of a face to face meeting - although I would love to go to one of them. Is there ever a time that I could bring my son to the meeting (he's 3)?

Thanks again!

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

Ditto what pinkchip and hotrod have posted. Focus on you...many answers to your questions will present themselves through your recovery. In the initial stages of my husband's recovery, I needed to remind him that I was his wife and not his therapist/sponsor. At the time he resisted getting a sponsor. I knew I had to focus on my recovery and not get all caught up in his stuff anymore. Keep coming back to this forum for additional support.

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