Hi I am new..and don't know what todo. - Al-Anon Family Group

bmoore07 · Newbie

Hi I am new..and don't know what todo.

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha Bre and welcome to the board...Yes you got the problem and you're living within the disease of alcoholism as I run it thru the filter of my relationships with other alcoholics. It's not the normal you wished for and there is help. Look for the hotline number for Al-Anon in your local telephone book and call that number for the where and when we get together in your town. If that is Danville CA., I'm pretty sure they'll have a ton of face to face meetings around your area. You will have concern about child care I'm sure and outside of family and friends to help out ask the hotline if childcare is available and in what form. Some of our members here have actually raised their kids at times in our face to face meetings...that's not what we're for however that is how we support often. Stick around on this board also. It is good that you came here...there is much more coming. ((((hugs)))) smile

bmoore07 · Newbie

thank you! I just feel like he makes me feel stupid and blind. I live in Danville, IN and I pulled up the meetings they are mondays at 8 in my town I am going to attend one this coming monday. Just this is my nightmare come true. I want to help and he denies me. I feel hopeless and I have been trying for months and it has gotten know where. His grandfather was an alcoholic and died and so was my uncle I don't really drink. He tells me I need to drink to loosen up. Is there a way to get them to believe there is a problem?

slogan_jim · Senior Member

bmoore07, trust your instincts as they sound correct.

I can't speak for your SO but I know that when I have 3 shots, I am in no condition to be playing scrabble let alone care for children :s

Al-Anon is a program that will help you work on yourself. I went into my first meeting thinking I would be given the magic key to get the alcoholic to stop drinking. When I didn't get my answers I left and didn't return for another 2 years until I realized I couldn't keep living the way I was living. Angry, resentful, jealous, sarcastic, alone and ultimately these qualities settled into bitterness. I was a mess.

The al-anon program help my sanity get back on track. I was no longer acting to control, getting angry for no reason, seeing clearly when I wasn't before.

As a young mother I can only imagine how scared u must be but as the child of an alcoholic I can say that ultimately you will be doing yourself and your kids, a giant favor.

Best of luck in your recovery.

Jim

bmoore07 · Newbie

THank you so much

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome Bmore

I am glad that you have found a face to face meetings to attend. We have on- line meetings here each day and if you can it might be helpful if you could join us.

Here is the web addreess

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