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AW was already drinking and found out had plans to get more. I didn't exactly stop her but registered my displeasure to step d when I found out she was going to purchase more for her. She gave the money to me my wife had given her and left leaving my wife with w options... walking or not drinking anymore. She chose a 3rd option which was to get meaner than a snake and make the most of the alcohol she already had in her. Not sure if I handled things right.
You handled it the best you could with what you had at the time. As you move forward your AW will learn you will not engage in her behavior anymore and will have to resort to desperation which will make her think about what she's doing and maybe just maybe seek help. Let go Let God....
Your in my thoughts and prayers.
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
This for me was "detachment" practice time. It is what it is, she is what she is, I gonna be who I am...So bad she's sooo sick. (((((AW))))) (((((DP)))))
DP - She treats you like garbage and you are tearing yourself up over whether YOU acted right? Go easy on yourself while addressing what your boundaries are and what you can or can't put up with...then stick to those boundaries. You have every right to say "I cannot put up with your drinking" but then you have to follow that up with consistent consequences. You do get to choose how you are treated and what kinds of people and behaviors you want to be around.
Nobody gets a free pass to treat me "meaner than a snake." Period. That is intolerable behavior for me so I would end a relationship over it or walk out. That's just me though. I left myself without options and thought I deserved that kind of treatment for too long. Life is short...too short to be letting myself be anyone's verbal, emotional, or physical punching bag.
