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AH just called me. He was sent from his outpatient program to the local ER to be "medically cleared" for a new prescription. He was stressed about going to the ER again (third time in 2 weeks) and at the end said, "maybe I should just go home - this is crazy". I said, "No, do the right thing, just go and text me when you get there, so I know you are settled". He said ok, but it's been 20 minutes and I'm not convinced. I'm at work, an hour away, so feeling very frazzled and worried. Saying the serenity prayer, but don't know what else to do....
Paris...from my experience times like these were "practice" times where I learned to habitually and naturally Let go and Let God. It was also practice to kill all expectations and focus on what shoes I was wearing and what my responsibilities were...my life and mychoices. These were the times when my enabling disease went into remission and my alcoholic addict wife started learning to be responsible for her choices and consequences like it was supposed to be and I interrupted when I came into her life as Mr. Fixit. You can use HP and so can he...((((hugs))))
Thanks Jerry. I said the serenity prayer and literally sat on my hands so I wouldn't touch my phone. He texted me an hour later and said "all set, heading back to IOP for lunch. :)" It is so HARD to keep out of his business, but I am encouraged that I passed this little test. Thanks!
OH Yay!! I know the sitting on the hands exercise works cause I was taught that also. I was also taught to extend my arms out from my body and turn my hands palms upward and to imagine that my problem that I had no power over was laying in the palms of my hands and then raising my palms upward toward my Higher Power and then....bringing them down empty. You practice good...now duplicate. Hope you don't feel left out now that he showed you he can handle his responsibilities without Panic..eerrr...paralysis....errr I mean Paris. LOL ((((hugs))))
After I got over my panic and was a little more clear-headed, I thought, why did he call me at all? He knows I'm an hour away, there was nothing I could do, except wish him well. Oh what a crazy ride we are both on! He gets nervous, anxious, upset....and calls to me for help so he doesn't have to deal with the worry, fear, etc. And normally I go rushing in to take care charge. Then when things go bad, guess who carries all the blame and guilt!?!
I don't feel left out! I want to be left out, so I can focus on my own life for a change. :) Have a great day.
well done paris. i love step one, we are powerless, its freedom to live and let live. im also sitting on my hands and i try to think how harmful enabling is.x
