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my dear granddaughter is finally able to talk about the pain of living with an alcoholic parent. unfortunately it took her hospitalization to feel safe enough to be able to verbalize her feelings. feeling of fear while dad was drinking daily. listening to mom and dad fight. listening to and probably seeing the physical abuse. wanting to fix dad and get him better. not being able to fix him.
what a horrible thing for a child to take on and be exposed to for many years. hiding her feeling until they had to come out with suicide attempt. i am so hopeful that she can now begin to slowly mend with the help of her psychiatrists and counslers.
in the past i offered to take her to alateen which she refused. this disease is just devestating to the entire family especially our innocent children. i am crying to think that noone stepped in to remove her from this abusive situation. she is just 14 years old. and to think of the insanity she has lived with most of her life. sometimes it is too much for me and i have tools from alanon.
i am trying to be optimist. have faith. give it all to god. but i am also so angy that noone protected her. (even me.) everyones head was in the sand. and no one wanted to talk about it. but i cannot do the what if's or should haves. today is new day. prayers needed PLEASE.
I am so glad that she is receiving medical attention and is finally in the right place and safe enough to be heard. Alcoholism does devastate families, as I have seen and because" denial " is one of the symptoms of the disease many children and adults go without support for too long.
Keep being gentle with yourself, trusting HP and know you and your family are not alone
Will be praying, Debbie. We all have the should have done this, should have done that stuff, even without dealing with alcoholism. Life isn't easy but our HP is there for us to lean on and learn from. As Betty said, be gentle with yourself today and I will place you and your family in my prayers.
I'm so happy to hear your GD is getting the help she needs and is finally let go and telling her side of the story. This is a young life that's needs love and understanding to deal with her problem.
You and your family are in my prayers that she will continue to get better and know she is loved and cared for.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Just reading your post put a huge lump in my throat. I can relate to both her pain and your pain. May the forces of heaven shine a light so bright upon you both that the darkest fades and joy again feels your hearts.
You are in my prayers.
John
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" And what did we gain? A new life, with purpose, meaning and constant progress, and all the contentment and fulfillment that comes from such growth."
I teach college...in a program that offers a human services degree...
I work with lots of 18 year olds. To a student, the ones who are most useful to others, are the ones who have faced adversity in their lives. These students are much more able to connect and empathize with other human beings.
It truly is so sad that she has had to experience this...but maybe HP has a bigger plan for her...
She is now getting the help she needs...which is more than many kids in her situation.
