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I wrote yesterday re: "let go let God" The phone rang early this morning, my SIL, I didn't pick up. I got so anxious about it, my codependent behavior/issues are out of control, I can't stand the thought of someone being in pain.
I prayed about it, called my sponsor and prayed about it again. I know by not taking his calls, I'm only prolonging it, and I want my serenity back. I just remembered to pray for all concerned for God's will to be done.
I'm going to get ready fo go to an al-anon meeting.
Gettingitright!!
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Just go a step at a time, one day at a time. And you'll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford.--A Rogers
I know what your going through. I have learned if I step back and not engage right away the answers come to me and the enabling/codependent issues subside. I too can't see my son in pain but that is what he needs. Not me in pain...what good does that do for me or him. I am going to kill him with kindness if I don't stop and let him feel his pain for his choices. Yeah I can blame myself, guilty, feel bad, cry or whatever for him but it hasn't and won't do any good. I have learned this.
I stay on my side of the street one day at a time. I get support and ESH whenever I need it and I move forward one day at a time. I practice,practice practice one day at a time.
PS: They are our adult children and they can work it out for themselves if they so choose ...God said so.
(((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
hugs