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Well, my AB gets out of jail tomorrow, or midnight tonight? I haven't spoken to him but he sent me a Valentine's Day card, it wobled me, to say the least. I do not want to get sucked back into the drama and abuse that accompany his drinking. I can no longer trust in him and I have been working hard on my own recovery from the situation. I know I am strong enough to be detached, but detachment varies right? I keep thimking it is better for me to cut him loosse and live me life, peacefully. The problem, I love and miss him. Where do I go from that?
I would encourage you to go to a meeting and if you have a sponsor straight to them as well and work that program!!! Hugs p:)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I have found that I shouldn't even try to predict what I want or how I will feel when it comes to interaction with the A...I just need to be in the flow. When I least expect it, I miss the AH (separated) and then at other times, when he is supposed to come by and I was looking forward to it, within 10 minutes of seeing him, I want him to leave immediately. Thanks to all the chaos and confusion from living with alcoholism, I can accept that I *never* know what I will feel, so there is no point in projecting. Take it one moment at a time and try to focus on you. Best wishes for peace....do what you feel comfortable with.
I never liked being tested either Heather...Hmmmm this reminds me of my sponsor telling me to be aware of the consequences I would get from the decisions I would make and that maybe I should chose the consequence first before anything else. Good luck. ((((hugs))))
