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I was watching a program called Drugged about a young 29 yo man that was addicted to Alcohol. He agreed to go into rehab but only lasted 17 days before his young life was taken.
I couldn't stop crying.
I can't help but think this is what's next for my son.
I feel because I can't do anything for him I don't want to see him anymore. I know its a very terrible thing for me to do or even think about but that is how I feel. Let him die then maybe he will have peace.
I cry....and pray for God to help me cope.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Cathy when you feel the way you do try this practice. It was one of mine until I got it down right. Stand out in the open, where ever you are when the feeling of deep loss and sandness hit because you're fixated on the alcoholic. Stand still and reach your arms out. Turn your palms upward and lift them above you and imagine your HP taking him from your palms and then bring your palms down empty and go on. Keep coming back ((((hugs))))
Ohhhh Cathyinaz Projection is a terrible thing. Our own fear is not reality.
This too will pass x
I can understand you don't want to see the consequences of your sons actions They are HIS consequences but they are so terrifying to us who care for them.
One day at a time x and if thats to long just live this hour only....focused on your own serenity.
Prayer is a very powerful thing x.
I hope tomorrow will be a better day for both of you.
I'm so, so, sorry. Its not selfish to need to stay away from it. We already know we did not help by staying in it. I love the idea above with the arms to your HP. All we can do in these times are to pray.
{{{{{{{{Cathy}}}}}}}} I saw that same show/episode yesterday. I tuned in because of my A and was hoping to learn something new about the disease. I didn't learn anything new and I too cried. It's tough and if I was in your position I'd be having the same thought pattern as you. Your son is choosing his path and as parents we know we taught our children better, but we have to step aside and let them fall so they can get back up and try again. You've done the best you can Cathy focus on you for you now. God Bless.
Cathy, I'm sorry you are sad. I think it's okay to protect yourself from your son's alcoholism. He has relapsed and its even more important for you to keep looking in, keep your focus on you. Remember he has made a choice and it is his to make. He has his own hp who will take care of him. They always seem to land on their feet, it's us who get ill with worry and stress.x
Sending lots of love and support during this very trying and difficult time.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
