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Sometimes you just gotta vent! One of the things I can do now is to see much more clearly some of the things that happened in my marriage. One of them was my ah seeming to always make everything my fault. It's a tough place to be in. You want to be helpful but then it's never right and then you just end up being frustrated. I feel your pain. I'm glad you got to get it off your chest and get some puppy love! Sometimes that's the best thing to do for you!
-- Edited by abbyalana on Friday 18th of January 2013 06:48:31 PM
Hello and Happy New Year to all in MIP. It has been a while since I posted, but I am here at least twice a day, getting strength.
Enabling vs helping - That has been a tough one for me as a Mom but I have been shown the light that I have been a super enabler with her for the past 12 years with our AD. Here's the latest - she has court on Tuesday for support and was 3 months behind in producing her personal financial statement to the judge. Her lawyer said no papers, no support hearing. She got this lawyer on her own. I asked no questions about his fee payment.
As I mentioned previously, she can not help her son do 2nd grade math so the financial form was very confusing. SHE came to me and pleaded to help her fill it out. As she was totally lost when I asked her questions about the amount of her student loans owed and credit cards, I filled out the forms based on the info she provided me. I was astounded that she actually had some of her pay stubs. She had to had Dad create the forms into a PDF file and sent them in.
The lawyer just called and something is missing from the form and she is screaming at the top of her lungs at me. I fracked this up for her, thanks so much. Its too late!! Slamming doors. She sounds like she will come thru the ceiling she is pacing so much.
UGGGGHHHG! She is such an ungrateful .....................
We are so sick of her behavior and attitude. I know her HP has a plan, but I would give anything to have a heads up on the timeline of when things will be unfolding for her. Can't happen soon enough.
never mind, my dog just came over to me. I feel better. Thanks for letting me rant.
Glad you shared Take several deep breaths, say the serenity prayer, read the C2C and repeat the slogan, Let GO and Let God until you can feel the serenity, love and peace of your HP.
