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I am determined to continue working my program in 2013. I have learned so much from Al Anon and from these boards and from the wonderful supportive people here on MIP. I came home from being away 4 days and found chaos in the house. Broken framed print from Italy that I cherished and got custom framed. Broken Christmas platter in the garage where I was stashing all the Christmas stuff before I packed it away. The dogs bowl was filled with gunk and debris and his water bowel outside was empty. Nothing had been put away in the kitchen. I took care of it all and didn't say a word. I did get a little ticked when I found a beer bottle cap strewn in my Christmas decor on the floor in the garage. But, I'm doing so much better than last year. A year ago, I would have made a stink. Questioning how things got broken and challenging him on his lame explanations. He still had explanations today (which he offered on his own, I didn't ask) but I just accepted them and moved on. Hey, maybe he really did just step on my plate, even though I know it was sitting on top of the Christmas box, right? LOL, sometimes I really do have to laugh at my own frustrations but I've learned through this program to ask myself, "How important is it?" There are just some things that aren't worth getting worked up about. I used to get worked up about everything and I'm happy to say that that's not me anymore. But, boy, do I have a long way to go! Thanks, everyone for being here this past year!
I think I would be quite upset myself coming home to that. It's one thing for a dirty home but broken things would tick me off. To be strong and not go off the deep end is saying you have come a long way. Myself though would tell the persons involved how disappointed I am for my things getting broken.
I feel for you to come home to that but sometimes its better just to let go and move forward. I don't know if I could :)
((((( hugs )))))
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That's very impressive work, you really showed such detachment, not anger or resentment just moving on and letting it go. I'm still working on that part and will probably be working on it till the day I die! Hugs though, that would have been hard to see and turn first to detachment.
Big hugs!!! Congrats on working such a great program!!! Hugs p :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
