After the Xmas ridiculousness with the exAH it has come to a head.  I spoke with the court mediator today about the situation and she said based on the therapists recommendation, things I shared that have occured and this weekend's recent BS that I yank all visitation with our child.  She said he is not doing what he sat down and said he would do right in front of her (not drink more than 4 beers when with her, not drink and drive and not have other addicts/undue influence at his place.)  She said wait for him to file for me to be in contempt of court and then she is going to do a sit down and have a long conversation about what is going to be appropriate (supervised visits) in the future.

She told me I went above and beyond in facilitating visitation and she hoped she had validated that I am doing the right thing and that our daughter is very lucky to have me in her life.

So, visitation is yanked for now.  I can honestly say that I feel like a level of anxiety has been lifted...for now.  I just feel so, so sad for my daughter.  I have printed off the Alateen meeting schedule for my area and plan to hit a double Alanon/Alateen meeting for us both to attend.  In spite of everything we will keep moving forward.  Hopefully he will do his part before he really loses her.