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MY CAPS LOCK STICKS, OH WELL. I BROKE UP WITH MY CURRENT RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE I WAS FEELING IT WAS HEADED TOWARDS SOMETHING NOT WHAT I WANTED ANY LONGER, IT WAS HARD FOR ME TO HURT HIM, IT DID HAVE TO HAPPEN AT SOME POINT THOUGH, NOT GREAT TIMING TO DO IT, I KNOW. IT HAD TO GET DONE AND YESTERDAY WAS THE FIRST TIME I FELT STRONG ENOUGH TO DO IT. I HAVE A HEAD COLD AND DONT FEEL GOOD, MY KIDS ARE WITH THERE DAD WHO IS STAYING SOBER FOR THE 6 DAYS HE HAS THEM AND I FEEL RELAXED AND AT PEACE ABOUT THAT. MY EXAH TALKED OF TRYING TO STAY NOT DRINKING AND HE HAS TALKED WITH A POTENTIAL AA SPONSER, I AM STAYING CAUTIOUSLY OPTIMISTIC AND DETTACHED. I AM TRYING TO LIVE TRUE TO MYSELF AND AS HEALTHY AS I CAN BE MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY AND SPIRITUALLY. I FEEL GOOD AOUT MY CHOICES AND PRAY FOR PEACE FOR YOU ALL THIS CHRISTMAS!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
I am so happy for you that you can feel peace at this time. That is a precious commodity this time of year, but if we work for it, it will come. Our work in the program is never wasted.
(((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
I hope you feel better soon. Smart to take down time no matter what day it is. Sorry your relationship wasn't what you hoped but you can be proud of yourself for working an honest program and ending it with him to be true to yourself. There doesn't ever seem to be a winner in a break up. You feel bad about it too. I hope you have a relaxing day being good to yourself. (((breakingfree))) TT
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Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.
Thanks for your share somethings come in and have to leave I'm glad you were able to do it on your terms. I hope you feel better and the kids are home soon!!!
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I think you did the right thing. Putting yourself first is the way to go. Every human being is entitled to happiness. No one was born to serve another. Do what you think is best for you, get better and grow. Hurting someone else's feeling will happen in life. They will live even though they tell you otherwise. At least you saved you and that's what matters.
I think it is so good to learn to "date" rather than to commit to a relationship day one. Getting to know someone takes a while. I do not see breaking up anymore as the chasm I once called it. I had to come to al anon to learn that. I broke up with the ex a all the time and felt devastated everytime because I had some unreality in mind. How good it is to be in reality.
I also have had a series of head colds, there are so many nasty ones around. How great to have the time and energy to just be ill rather than be trying to control, manipulate and manage others. What a healthy post!
