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hi all i am new to this as of tonight. i want to start by being very grateful for this site. now as short story as i can, my husband has been drinking for afew years now. he works and we do not have finacial problems due to his habit. his new thing is lying to me about drinking whiskey. i found out that he had drank it at his christmas party so i hinted around and he flat out lied. now i know this is not about me but i can not stand being lied to, it drives me insane. how do i handle this??? we have been fighting over the lying (not bout the drinking) and the next day he lies again.
I had to learn to stop checking up on my A and his drinking. Al-anon face to face meetings helped the most and I found my sponsor there, coming here to MIP is also a great help and reading all the Al-anon material I could get the first year has gotten me to a much better place. The book " Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drews. Sending you love and support on your journey!
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Welcome lulu0603 so pleased you found us, like you I am so grateful to have the MIP family for my support.
the deceit is one of the hardest aspects of the disease of alcoholism for me that and being let down. Find some al-anon litrature, it really helps and if you can get to a meeting try it, it will help to be around people that understand like few others.
Much support and love
Simone x
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Hi, Glad you found this site. It has helped me very much to know I am not alone. Lying is a typical reaction to an alcoholic. They live in fear and in denial. My AH has been actively drinking and sober - a real roller coaster of emotions. I learned not to ask if he is drinking because I already know. I ignore it now because I know I will be lied to. It is a difficult thing to accept by anyone let alone your significant other who we are supposed to trust. I have even asked, " how would you feel if I lied to you?" Obviously he tells me he wouldn't want to be lied to BUT he is the alcoholic and I am not. It is a part of them. Keep coming back; you will learn so much here. All the best to you.
oh my goodness thank you so so so much. the fact that i know now i am not alone makes me feel alittle better. i have no way to go to a real meeting. it would be an hour and a half away. so for now this is it. things just keep getting worse with him i feel like he gave up. now he turns everyhting around on me. im so hurt if you dont mind me sharing that..........
