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ok so I got a call from my mom today. She was begging to come back to the house saying she has been living in her car. (its cold out so I worry about that) I really don't know what to do! I have mixed feelings about this.
This is indeed an extremely difficult situation . I recall this all began a few days ago when you rushed her to the hospital and then discovered the extent of her drinking and knew that you could not tolerate this drinking in your home around your child.
I must ask you is having to sleep in her car her the only alternative.? You did mention she had her mother's house available . Is there other family or friends she can contact? If so I see no reason for not staying with your boundary and suggest she check elsewhere.
Please search out face to face meetings in your community . You truly need this support.
This is very difficult of course. There should be a shelter somewhere in your town that you might be able to take her too. In my experience if they are still in the stage of "beg/feel sorry for me" they are still going to drink. This is a tough decision but take the time to ask yourself "can I live with her drinking in my house again" because ultimately, that's likely.
None of us can give you actual advice. I wish for you a resolution that fits with your boundary and sanity. Hugs.
Thank you so much for your advice. This is something we are going to think about. She couldn't stay at her mothers. Her only other family in town wont help. The only sibling willing lives several states away. So I don't know what will end up happening as I have some of my own things in the next few days that we need to focus on. Yay.
