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I loved this, when I first came to Al-Anon I kept wanting to know why, and this reading is so very true!
Pg 339
"Some of us come to Al-Anon to find out why the alcoholic drinks. We're afraid it's because "he doesn't love me anymore" or because something we have doneor are doing is upsetting him and making him drink. We are much relieved to learn that alcoholism is an illness. It is also very helpful, however, to know that the very things we have been doing may have hindered recovery from this illness.
With the best of intentions, we have been trying to cure it by treating it as deliberately, willful and wicked. We are told that anything we do to humiliate and blame the alcoholic only increases his guilt or reinforces his claim that we are at fault. This teaches us the immense value of a hands-off policy. It is hard to come by, but it works wonders!
Today's Reminder
I will not waste thought on exploring the reasons why the alcoholic drinks. Al-Anon answers that I can cope with my problems effectively by changing my thinking about them, correcting my own mistaken attitudes, and allowing the alcoholic to take care of his own problem."
"I ask God to help keep me on the course, that will change my life for the better."
Thank you so much for writing that today. My mind was thinking to much of what the future will be for me and my son and you have given me my answer in many ways just reading it.
God works wonders if you let go and let God take over.
God bless you Cathy
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
