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Well my husband and I were all set to talk to my mom yesterday. However through the couse of the day I realized she had taken all her stuff and wasn't planning on comming back. However, she had no where else to go. My brother drove by her mothers house to see if she went there. (My grandmother has demtia and is now living in a home.) I have no idea where she is and am a little worried as she could have easily died here with us the other night. (choking on her vomit while asleep) I am torn as to what to do, just let her find her own way or find her and try to get her help. She is not allowed back in my house as she made the decision to leave. Oh boy. Somethimes I wonder how I will ever be able to cope with all my issues besides this. This was the straw that broke the camels back. I know you only get as much as you could handle, but sometimes I wonder. I will get her help if she wants but that is the extent of what I am willing to do now. And I know that sounds harsh but I just can't emotiontally.
"I know you only get as much as you could handle...."
For me, my friend, I cannot be overwhelmed as long as I am reaching for Higher power, that's where the power comes from. and that is the solution in al-anon. step two is situated at the base of recovery for a very good reason, so I don't try to do it alone anymore. I certainly don't have to, I have a choice.
I always added more meetings to my schedule during times of stress or crisis, it always brings more peace (((hugs)))
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The prayer isn't for Higher Power to change our lives, but rather to change us.
Somethimes I wonder how I will ever be able to cope with all my issues besides this. This was the straw that broke the camels back. I know you only get as much as you could handle, but sometimes I wonder. I will get her help if she wants but that is the extent of what I am willing to do now. And I know that sounds harsh but I just can't emotiontally.