Husband back home from rehab - Al-Anon Family Group

Catm005 · Newbie

Husband back home from rehab

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome to Miracles in Progress Catm

As you know alcoholism is a disease over which we are powerless. We did not cause it, cannot control it and cannot cure it. It is great that your husband has started to seek recovery however a 30 day rehab program is only the beginning. An entirely new way of thinking and living takes much more time and energy to establish.

I understand how tired , angry, and unsupported that you feel. We who have lived with this disease truly need a program of recovery for ourselves. We become irritable and unreasonable with out even knowing it. Alanon is a fellowship of people who share their experience strength and hope in order to solve our common problem . . Face to Face meetings can be found in most communities .You can find a meeting in your area by going to the following link:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html

After checking out a meeting location you can find important information about alanon and alcoholism by placing your cursor over the US in the upper left of the screen, 3 more pull downs open. One of these are information for the newcomer, and the second is Al-Anon for you; both are excellent.

Please keep coming back here You are not alone.

-- Edited by hotrod on Thursday 29th of November 2012 11:00:53 AM

Tracy · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi and welcome.

you do not say if you are attending al anon meetings. I suggest youtry them I became really ill living with this disease al non saved my sanity.

My partner has been in AA for 3 year and has had some slips as he learns more about his disease. At the moment he is newly sober 3 months. I find this early sobriety sometimes harder than the drinking. He gets aggitate, anxiuos like when people are quitting smoking.

I have laernt over the years that drinking is only a symptom of the disease alcoholics are mentally ill they have a alergy to alcohol.

stopping drinking is just the beginning, the need to attend meetings, get a sponsor, work the steps to really get better. there is nothing we can do, we have to focus on ourselves. I have laernt so much about alcoholism and what i am living with. i have laernt so much about myself. today my home is better and I can say i am a better mum, its amazing.

But I have needed to give time for meetings, talk to members on the phone and on here, read read read, and work the steps myself.

Al anon is my medicine,

keep coming back it works if you work it

hugs tracy xxx

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

Face to face meetings, this board and my sponsor have helped me through my bottom with this disease. Have you read "Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drews, that book brough me lots of insight too. I am sending you much love and support on your journey!

Flame · Member

I am also dealing with a loved one in early sobriety and post-rehab and have found it incredibly hard. There is a serious energy shift, like a sort of protective barrier has gone up around him. He went from extremely needy and overdramatic before rehab to icy, tight-lipped and removed post rehab. VERY hard to deal with. Any ideas out there on how long these kinds of personality change last?

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