The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I was so afraid that Thanksgiving would be hard as it was the first holiday since I moved out. I started out very angry, wrote a scathing email to my AH and deleted it. After that, I felt much better and was able to sleep a restful sleep (work nights so the end of my day was the start of Thanksgiving). When I woke I felt wonderful, went to moms with the kids for dinner and loved our evening.
When we returned to our new home, I felt a sense of peace that I have not felt in a long time. It was like I saw the comfort of being in a safe peaceful home. My children and I tucked in for the night with out any drama, stress or attempts to avoid making an A angry. It was amazing. I feel no need to talk to him or check that he made it thru a holiday alone.
The peace is such a welcome experience. While I expect another night will be hard and that there will be down days, this one is wonderful and I am glad for it.
Thanks for sharing about your holiday. Serenity is a wonderful thing. You deserve a happy, joyous and drama free life. I found the sad days with "if only" feelings were much easier to deal with while living on my own than having to deal with constant insanity 24/7. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family. We can keep taking care of ourselves and be grateful for recovery while keeping others in our thoughts and prayers. TT
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