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I need slogans for my wall. I have a bunch, but I know there are more out there. Anyone with slogans please share them with me. Thanks and happy turkey day to all! Here is what I have on my wall now, Any new ones out there?
"Place me where you want me and tell me what to do".
You didn't Cause it, you can't Cure it and you can't Control it.
Let Go and Let God
S-save M-mother O-obsess O-own T-take abuse H-HP (be his or let him be your tin God) E-expect R-react
One Day at a Time
Easy Does It
He/She will either drink, or he/she won't.... what are YOU gonna do?
Try looking at your active A with a large SSS stamped on their forehead
Focus on the "whats", not the "whys" - the whys will kill ya...
Honesty got you there, tolerance keeps you there
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Dr. Suess
You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to.
God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.
Think, Don't React
How Important Is It
When In Doubt Don't
No Is A Complete Sentence, Feel Good About Saying No
Listen And Learn
Fake It Till You Make It
Insanity "Doing the same things over and over again expecting different results".
"If I keep doing what I've always done I'll keep getting what I've always gotten."
"If it ain't broke...don't fix it".
G.O.D. - Good Orderly Direction
Listen and Learn...take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth. You have TWO ears and ONE mouth for a reason - use the ears twice as often as you use the mouth.
When you're confused about what you should do and where you should be, stand very still for a while and look down at your feet...that will tell you where you are at; next look directly above you and ask, "Where do you want me?" then listen with both of your ears.
The alcoholic is a sick person because they drink too much, what is my excuse. (enablers question).
what you think of me is none of my business
There is only one thing you need to change about yourself in Al-Anon
... E V E R Y T H I N G.
Steps One thru Three condensed. "I can't - God can - I'll let Him"
The twelve steps condensed. Trust God - Clean House - Help Others.
When at first you don't succeed...call your sponsor.
Next time you're feeling smart and think you know the solution to the alcoholic's problem...Say out loud "I think you should..." and then listen quietly. Most often you can hear God laugh.
"Recovery isn't winning, it's not playing."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
I refrain from practicing the 4 M's found in our literature which are:
Mothering
Manipulating
Managing
Matyrdom
I have a full life today that is worth living. I remain grounded in my recovery and keep the focus on me leaving the results up to my HP.
I have now reached a place on my journey where I will no longer tolerate unacceptable behavior.
I also like "An expectation is a future resentment" or
If you're not a fortune teller...stay out of the future.
Having a resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
Often times the answer to a prayer is No or Wait.
There is only one God...I'm not it and neither are you.
Most naturally what you get from carrying too much weight is a hernia.
Many people will not choose recovery because of the fear or the pain of surgery.
My experience has been that when I am unwilling to ask for help, and I insist that I can do it all myself, I'm just a drunk talking to a crazy person.
I thought I was so cool. Then my sponsor pointed out that the definition of "cool" is "not so hot."
None of us came here on a winning streak
"If you do not know where you are going, then any road will take you there."
"Minds are like parachutes. They only function when they are open"
If I can't be a good example then I will just have to serve as a horrible warning
Take the mess to your sponsor, the message to the meeting
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
If I deserted everyone in my family who is (insert disease of choice) there would be no one left to blame but myself - maybe I should begin with myself and let the others be who they are. -- I believe they call that "Live & Let Live"
If I have one finger pointed towards someone in blame, I have three pointing back at myself.
Selfishness, self centerdness, that we think is the root of our problem... (AA Big Book)
I really believe that one is important. We always seem to think but but he or she could... or why.... etc. they do not get it like we do nor do we them!
what am I grateful for
Keep it simple
when in doubt eat cheesecake? get a pizza? kiss someone? get a puppy or kitten? sing? wrap up in a down comforter?
hug everyone? ummmm huh? hugs honey, debilyn who always has to think outside of the box......square peg don'tcha know
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Putting HP first, always <(*@*)>
"It's not so much being loved for ourselves, but more for being loved in spite of ourselves."
Let go or be dragged (I don't know if that's an alanon saying however .. LOL .. it's how I best relate to let go and let God)
Worry never rocked a rocking chair (I say worry never moved a rock)
Resentments are like taking poison waiting for the other person to die.
Would have, could have, should have (AA)
I can't fix manage or control another person. (AA)
First thing first.
Do the next right thing.
One Day At A Time
I only have to do this one day at a time.
I don't know what is actually alanon, what are some of my pushka'ism's and what is AA that makes a whole lot of sense to me.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
love the person, hate the disease-I am sure having trouble with this one! I'm good with the hate the disease part. I'm numb towards my A-can't feel the love, Lyne