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It sounds like you're projecting into the future... worried about what may happen, even though it hasn't... I do that too sometimes and then come all the emotions as if it has actually happened!!! I am always fearful when I'm in the future. The better option for me is to just stay in the present moment, usually everything is fine in the present moment.
I would LOVE to be going camping this weekend, that sounds fabulous! Nature is my favorite medicine, I connect with Higher power very easily when I'm outdoors. if you have a child along, all the better, their perspective is so pure. so, you could put your focus on all the good stuff. and when you find yourself thinking that an alcoholic shouldn't be acting like an alcoholic, you may want to tell yourself the truth instead, indeed they should act like that way because, well. they are, right? it's pretty crazy to argue that one, and I lose my serenity every time I do. I gotta watch my thinking because ours is a thinking problem.
You could give her the dignity to live her life as she chooses, turn her over to higher power because that solution brings me more peace, "Let go and let God." and then you could reach for your own Higher power, looking for all the ways Higher power is trying to reach you, it's always there, never goes away. focus on doing what brings YOU joy this weekend, "Live and let Live." if you hit a wall, take a left, choose something else. remember that with Higher power along, you can do anything, you can have a really great weekend, "Let it begin with Me."
I will love hearing how it goes, what tools worked best for you. Enjoy!
-- Edited by glad lee on Friday 26th of October 2012 08:14:47 AM
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The prayer isn't for Higher Power to change our lives, but rather to change us.
Well, last week at this time I was much worse off than today... good news! The Al-Anon meeting I went to yesterday seems to be a little better fit than the first group I attended. Nothing per se bad about the first group but just seemed like a better fit for me. Still have to work into it though.
I am still struggling with the whole idea of the AW. I spoke with a friend today who had an ex-wife who was alcoholic and dad died an alcoholic. He did ask me, "What about her drinking bothers you?" My answer: It's nothing that she really does other than I see it progressing and it concerns me. I am nervous about the weekend. The AW and I are going camping in our camper with our grandson. I know I need to get a different thought process when I find myself worrying how I will act if she brings wine. Just find myself a little nervous about that. I want to get back to the time when I looked forward to the weekend and not thinking I'm glad it's Monday.
Any thought and feedback is always appreciated. Hope everyone has a great day.
Just as she often does Glad was channeling my elder sponsor. I read the title to you post and heard his voice telling me "Don't Project!!" and "When in doubt (about what to do) Don't...do anything" His name was Don T...HP has always been thorough with me. I also learned in program about giving up fortune telling...looking into the future with past emotions always got me past consequences. It was a foregone conclusion that future events would turn out negative when I used past feelings to frame them. I actually learned how to be positive minded in the program and not in business or anywhere else. The fellowship was strong with helping me to learn how to be happy as a choice rather than a reaction.
