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Theoceancalls


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So....last weekend my ah lost a friend to liver cancer..a strangly sudden death. Sad, tragic....my ah has been full of grief, fear and anxity....hes wondering the obvious...when will it be him. Actually talked to me about quiting, bla, blah, blah. Was home friday nite but left today at noon....its 1030pm....still out. Was buzzed when I finally reached him on his cell at 600. Said hed call later... I knew better. Daughter sleeping in my room tonight as he wiil be on the couch. Again. Thought this death would shake him...it did but gee, its also a great excuse to drink.... Thing is...know hes an alc w a disease. I guess in some ways ive accepted it. Thing I struggle w more is the broken promises, the lost family time bc of him being hungover, the deciet and the blantant disregard for family. If I ever did even a fraction of this ©#$& to him ... Yeah I know, hes got a disease...an excuse. I know im not supposed to put so much energy into him...i know....just struggling. I lay here w my daughter, i will say a prayer that he will make it safely home and that my daughter will grow up strong and healthy despite the alc dad....i pray for God to ease my mind and comfort me as I lay here wondering...what more can I do...

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Mattie


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I'm so sorry.  He has a disease and that is an explanation but I would not say it's an excuse.  He has chosen not to treat his disease.  Unfortunately it's a disease that comes with deceit, lost family time, broken promises, and all of that.  Remember that you don't have to be okay with it.  If you are, it's because there's more good in staying with him than bad.  Maybe that would be something to think about.  Do take good care of yourself!



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Theoceancalls


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Thank you. Your words comforted me...i needed that. I stay...i seek the good and pray on the bad.thanks

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