Hard Day - Al-Anon Family Group

Sam813 · Veteran Member

Hard Day

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

I am so sad you don't have the support of your spouse. That makes things so much harder. I pray that this spouse will find some compassion out of love for you.

Yes more meetings are a great idea. A sponsor and calling other members is great too. Even if you just have someone to sit with you and have some tea or coffee somewhere.

It is horrible, been there, still there. I have to picture my exAH in HPs hands and know that seriously is the best place to be.

Take a breath, drop your elbows, take nice clean breaths from your nose and out your mouth. If you can, stretch each part of your body.

The better you take care of you, the easier it will be to heal from this wound of anxiety and worry. Drink good water,eat healthy food, going for walks, napping, asking for hugs....these really help.

sending you love and love to your brother. debilyn

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Dear Sam

I hear you and do understand. Increasing your meetings at this time is an excellent idea. Alcoholism is a dreadful disease and keeping the focus on yourself, living one day at a time, not projecting, and trusting HP wil help.

In my thoughts and prayers

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha Sam...the negative can and will be overwhelming when I let it be. Another meeting in your week will help you learn how to manage that. Your thinking seems clear and your emotions not so much. Your spirit sounds "kinda...sorta" roller coasting without close support. Hoping your physical level is good. My sponsor taught me that this disease is a 4 level disease (mind, body, spirit and emotions) and that all levels interact. If one is down it can and will pull the others in that direction. I found on my journey that this was true for me. You're working it and are willing to grow beyond even the people you rely on who are not understanding and compassionate...yes we have to learn how to do that and to depend on those in recovery who know where we are at because they have been there also and who have experiences and solutions that worked for them which might also work for us. You can always vent here...your venting wont hurt any MIP members. Your venting supports our own recovery...many of us have solutions to what you are going thru now. Keep coming back. In support also (((((hugs))))) smile

tiredtonite · Member

It's good you're here with us and keep sharing. The extra meetings can help. When we get sick and tired of being sick and tired we surrender our will - we let go of others too and surrender them to a power greater than we could ever be. All we can do is say the serenity prayer and send them our love by keeping positive thoughts for their well being. I can bet you that most people on this board have waited for that call just like you. I know I did. I had my heart in my throat wondering if it would be my loved one or a messenger delivering a dreaded message. It's a horrible feeling sam. Worse yet, it sapped all my energy when I gave my power away to the disease. I neglected myself and others who deserved my love and attention and that resulted in needing to make amends to myself and them. Live and let live. It isn't easy is it? Our hearts become so heavy under the burden of alcoholism. Durng a similiar time, I began a journal and wrote to the one I was missing. It gave me some release and drew me closer to my higher power too. You say your spouse doesn't understand but maybe they just miss you. Wishing you happiness, serenity and hugs. TT

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

You received great ESH. Whenever I was struggling emotionally to get through each day i would up my meetings and sponsor calls and it helped everytime. I just want you to know I am sending you much love and support on your journey!

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Sam, sad as the situation is, this is a great post. It is honest and comes right from your heart. It is sad what you brother is going through. You are letting yourself feel it and walking through it. That is the beat way to share and recover. Supporting you...

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Sam, sad as the situation is, this is a great post. It is honest and comes right from your heart. It is sad what you brother is going through. You are letting yourself feel it and walking through it. That is the best way to share and recover. Supporting you...

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