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TrudyS85


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Well, it's Monday morning and tomorrow is moving day for my AH. He found an apartment and is doing the big move tomorrow. I have a lot of mixed emotions but still know my decision to separate was the right one.

I spent the weekend doing lawn work, for those of you that don't know me you should know I HATE yard work, but our yard was a mess - the result of him not taking care of it while he was still living here. I set my goal to clean up one specific portion this weekend (a really big eyesore), and while I sweated and cursed and got dirty and scratched up, when I was done I stood back and looked at what I had done - I had taken a mess and made it beautiful again. While I didn't enjoy the process, I really enjoyed the end result and felt good because I had taken charge and took care of it. Now I'm making lists of other things that have been neglected that I want to tackle. I forgot how capable I am during this whole mess.

So while I am sad about him moving out tomorrow, I know it is for the ultimate good. He keeps saying he will show me that he can change, we'll see. In the meantime I am finding that capable, get er done, person that I used to be. It feels good. Happy Monday to all my friends here, let's make this a great week!  ts



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hotrod


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Dear Trudy

What an inspiring Monday Morning post .  Your work in the yard reminds me of my early work in alanon. 

MY life , I was like your yard and truly needed hard dedicated work  I finally commited to working this program.  I choose a few simple slogans and meetings to work with first .   Looking back after a few short months I was so pleased at the result I continued One Day at a Time to this day.

Thanks for sharing the journey.



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Wow sounds great that you are channeling your frustrations into productivity. I am so glad to hear you working your program! Sending you love and support!

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lol good for you! Well what makes yard work stuff fun for me is my dogs and cats and pig hanging out with me getting in the way.....

Well now that you see how good it makes ya feel, it will be easier to do some more!

You are being very strong, and real about his moving out. I would say to him,"hey you don't need to convince me, I invite you to do it for you!"

Plus it is a lifelong process, this disease is not curable.

I see women all foo foo and have perfect nails, hair no scars on their arms or legs. I cannot image me ever being like that. I mean I can sorta pretty up. But I love to do stuff!

If ya getting feeling like ouch he is gone, share please! hugs,debilyn



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It's amazing to find out what you do have some power and control over when you stop diverting all your energy into a trying to change a person that won't change. Now you actually can see the fruits of your labor. It's awesome. Keep it up.

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