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LulaMay


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I grew up in an alcoholic household and I must have told myself a million times that I was never going to marry anyone with a drinking problem....but I did. My husband has tried to quit several times. He isn't physically abusive or anything but I am so bitter because alcohol has been his priority, the party...his friends. He is a stay at home dad and very often comes in at 4:00 am and I worry about the care he is giving my daughter. It makes me so angry. I try to talk with him about it but it gets me no where. I also struggle with how I act too. I grew up in a broken home and have very broken tendencies that do not help the situation. It's so chaotic. It is truly unmanagable. I am working on those, but am very bitter because I feel like I am the only one trying. I struggle understanding how I can live in an unhealthy situation and become healthy?? Is it possible. I really love my husband and want to try to work it out. How can I support my husband's efforts of quitting drinking without being codependant? How can I become healthy while detaching from him and still have a relationship? Just looking for some thoughts and experiences.



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Dear LuaMay Welcome to Miracles in Progress
 
 
You are not alone There is hope Please check out al anon face to face meetings in your community and attend. You can find the number in the white pages of your telephone directory.
 
 
. Alanon is a fellowship of persons who live or have lived with the problems of alcoholism We understand as few others can. Attending meetings helps to break the isolation caused by this disease and enables us to find support as we regain our courage, peace and wisdom. We believe that alcoholism is a disease over which we are powerless.
 
Because of living with this disease we too require a program of recovery.
 
 
Please keep coming back here as well and sharing the journey


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You received great ESH from Hotrod and I too hope you can find some local face to face meetings and take care of yourself. Sending you love and support!

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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree

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