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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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Start right here! THere are many, many kind, understanding people on this site, many of whom can directly relate to your heartbreak. You are in good company and I am glad you found us.
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
Al-Anon is a support group for people living around alcoholism and/or addictions....
You will find all kinds of great people here, who will offer you their E,S,&H... Many on here have children who are their A's...... Others have spouses, parents, friends, or workmates.... The solutions are really the same, regardless of WHO is your qualifier...
Please keep coming back, and feel free to post here.
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
You have come to the right place. My son is an alcoholic - currently sober & attending AA but only for a few weeks so his recovery is just beginning.
There are many members here with children that are active in alcohol/drug abuse. Feel free to share and we will do our best to share our experience in return.
He is only just 19 and drinks at every opportunity, even during the day when he is not working. Last week he borrowed my car and promised he would not be drinking or smoking pot. He arrived home at 2:00 a.m. very drunk. He does not seem to understand or care about the consequences. He also drinks alone which is scary.
Yeah, that is disturbing. You can only set limits and stick to them if and when he breaks them. You are pretty powerless over what appears to be an escalating addiction.
He is only just 19 and drinks at every opportunity, even during the day when he is not working. Last week he borrowed my car and promised he would not be drinking or smoking pot. He arrived home at 2:00 a.m. very drunk. He does not seem to understand or care about the consequences. He also drinks alone which is scary.
..because he has not had to face any yet??
I took my car keys away from my son when I found an empty bottle in it - my boundary was that if he drank in my vehicle, then he had to walk. I even went further and told him there would be no drinking in my home or in the yard - had to be specific because I found bottles stuffed under the cushions on the patio furniture after I told him 'no drinking in the house'.
This is my boundary and if broken, then my 42yr kid will be living somewhere else.
