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Welp... My Day started again at 4:45 AM and Off & Running with My Momma to the Doctors... And because we have been doing this Pretty Much All Week, the Results are Slowly Trickling back in! And today was one of those Low Blow Kinda Days!
I Love My Cody-Mom Very Much, and Sometimes she is Like Speaking to a Child she is that Vulnerable! After Some Tests the Last two days we went to breakfast, and both times, she wont even look at the menu, she just says, "What she has I'll Get!" She really has NO IDEA the things she likes, wants, or even Needs Most Days! And it is Very Stressing on me at times, because I just wish at times she would have an "Opinion" that wasn't based on "Not hurting someone elses feelings!" I Could Never be Mad at My Mom for the Simple Fact it would Devistate her to No End!
So Today after Getting so Not so Pleasent news, I AGAIN... Had to Turn on My "Child Voice" and try to Talk to her about Her Health! And i have to say, I have Prayed My BUTT off these last Couple days, and I know HP is Listening, because again, the words I Spoke were Indeed: THINK .... T-houghtful...H-onest...I-mportant...N-ecessary..& K-ind! So that HELPED ALOT!
I Struggle at times with her on that because I Just want to "Lash Out" and say... "Wake up Women... Dont you see what your Doing to yourself!" BUT... Then Al-Anon Kicks in and I have to THINK! Thank God! Wish it worked that easy with others in my life, but I'm Grateful I can use it with Mom!
So She has some Tough Choices to make & I am REALLY Tryin to Not "Jump In" and Over Power the Choices, and Mind My Own Business, However when her Health is at risk, I'm not sure how long it will last! Ive always Got Prayer, and I'm Trying My Best to Use it as My Main Tool at this Point! And it has helped So Much! But I Still Struggle! I guess thats the Human part!
My ABrother isn't Currently Happy with me due to he ask me What she Found Out! And Because I was Honest & Didn't Sugar Coat it (He's the Baby! And Expects only the Necessary Info Not the Details!) And Because of that He now has the Butt at me! But ya know... I have broad shoulders Always Have, and he will either Get over it or he wont! I didn't Direct Anything Tords him, just told him what the Doctors told Me! This is My Family Disease at work for sure! So I must let him sit in his own Self Pity, just as At times I have to sit in Mine!
Life has Def. been a Roller Coaster of a Ride these last couple weeks! I have had 2 in a row VERY Wonderful Weekends with my Al-Anon Family & My Friend that Come to Visit this past weekend, but Boy when the Week Kicks off it seems Nothing Can Go Good! But I'm Still Doing my Best to Stay in Faith! But there are Moments where I Honestly have to STOP Right then & there and Say Out Loud while Looking Down "Im Standing Here, There are My Feet, In this Moment i'm OK...I Got this" before I can MOVE!
Praying that this too Shall Pass, and the LIght at the end of the Tunnel will again Begin to Glow!
I am sorry that your mom received a difficult diagnosis and will include your family in my thoughts and prayers.
My older sister is much like your Mom, and her daughter is constantly calling me asking for help. I must continue to remind myself that I am powerless over people. I suggest that my niece take the action--. present the seriousness of the situation, the choices and then let it go.
Last night my group studied Step 11 and i was again struck by the power of that Step. "Praying only for the knowledge of His Will and the Power to carry it out. I am always so humbled by the fact that HP will give me the strength and wisdom to do His will if I seek it in prayer.
My sister has responded well to being given this information She did agree to knee replacement surgery after being told by the Dr that she would be wheel chair within 2 years if she did not--She agree to Hysterectomy after receiving the same difficult news.
I think you did well You did not coat the information with your mom or your brother.
