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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Update - My S/O had one last family day. He didn't know he had. Luckily he isn't fired. But that was, is, the last straw. He was told there is no more days. None. He is extremely lucky.
So today, I went upstairs to get him up ask him nicely if he could help me out. We had company coming from out of town. He agreed...slowly but then something amazing happened. He said he wanted to cuddle (I said no, you didn't want to last night ~ I was saying in a silly voice). He said well because you were saying that pot is bad. I got really serious and I said explained. It's a chemical dependency. Yes fine it calms you but you can't be dependent on something, someone, to be that for you. You have to learn to cope with life and be that for yourself. Then we got into a discussion which never happens. I suggested (I felt God was leading me) to ask about his parents, how they were both victims of parents with As, then his Dad drank around him constantly. He also told me his Uncle was always with a beer, and drunk around him. He was used to it. He looked at me and said well it runs in the family. I listened. Then I brought up his two brothers. One was in AA a while ago, and one has just started AA about a week ago. So I brought up the question, maybe you would benefit from going to an AA meeting. Not because you ARE drinking but because you feel the need to have "something" to cope with. Whether it is A, or weed, or some kind of fix. He took me in his arms and said yeah, I noticed that too. Maybe I am angry because I don't have those things in my life like I used to and I can't cope. He smiled and I said I think I love you more now.
Whatever this is, or was, or will be. I am not holding my breath. I am taking this a day at a time. I removing judgement and I am offering hope? Maybe? Whether he goes or not goes, will not pervent me from getting better and staying on my own path. I felt this was little short of a miracle. Sure he is still going to do A behaviours, and he is going to hurt me, but maybe some how he will slowly get there. Even if he doesn't that is okay because I am going to get there.
I just want to share. Thanks Al Anon for being there and walking this journey with me. HUGS>
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"It's impossible said pride. Its risky said experience. Its pointless said reason. Give it a try whispered the heart - Anonymous (via Tad)
One of the coolest things about our program, is that it encourages us to find the good in every situation we can, without getting too far ahead of ourselves.... I think it's great that you can take this morning's talk for what it is - a positive moment - in both of your journeys.....
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
