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I am a Diabetic with high blood pressure, controlled by meds.
I had a mini stroke 5 years ago and was in the hospital 5 days, all those years of stress caught up with me.
Thats when I really started taking care of me and becoming healthy became my #1 priority. It was really a blessing in disguise. Today Im the healthiest Ive been. Not only did I develop boundaries for the A. (we separated at that time. ) Boundaries on my Mother too. My Mother is very self absorbed and didnt care that I had a stroke, she was not in the country at the time, which was another blessing.
Be sure you visit your Dr. every 3 months and that you have good control over your sugars and the right meds for your blood pressure. Did they increase your meds.
I take insulin and recently it was increased. The one thing that really raises the stroke levels is uncontrolled blood pressure. And nobody can raise your blood pressure like an out of control alcoholic. Its just not possible unless you really have detachment down.
Remember , dont take his inventory and if it didnt happen today, it never happened. Live one day at a time. Your doing good. Stay healthy.
Hugs, Bettina
-- Edited by Bettina on Monday 27th of August 2012 10:11:20 PM
-- Edited by Bettina on Monday 27th of August 2012 10:12:48 PM
Well I just spent the last day n half in the hospital for tingling and numbness. They had to monitor me for a stroke!! Turns out my diabetes and blood pressure is worse. No doubt, trying to worry about everyone else. Since it is a "progressive disease", it is time for me to take care of me and screw all things Alcohol. The ex found out and was calling my mom and telling everyone how he loves me, but we just can't get along and all worried. Not that he's drunk seven days a week, blows all his money, and starts the arguments (which everyone knows). Then has the nerve to whine about all his issues to my mom. To hell with him I say, go have another drink and advance your disease, while I try to return my focus to taking care of me and mine. So not worth my time and surely not my health. Getting my priorities straight and putting the past where it belongs!!
Thanks Bettina. Yes they upped the metformin, bp meds and added Cholesterol and aspirin. Some new rule too that if your bs is over 180 they have to give u insulin while you are there. So had to get a shot too. It is definitely a wake up call. Funny thing, I had good control until I had to move in with my mother after the split. She is not very supportive and was always verbally abusive. I've been practicing my detaching on her!! lol
At a certain point in my Moms life she became dissapointed with me. When I was young I was a professional singer and did some television. I guess I didnt become the big star she wanted me to become. She never got along with my Dad and she started to become a bitter woman and verbally abusive and cruel , more to me than my brothers.
Now , she is 86 and I have become her caretaker, good thing I have Alanon under my belt. Since I detached myself, she is like a little kitten. She see's she cant get to me.
Isnt it funny, well with my Mom she was always throwing up my life to me , constantly, my 3 marriages, and I married a drunk, bla bla bla. Does your Mom do that? They are unhappy women. My Mom is superficial and not very nice. She has never taken inventory of herself for she is never wrong.
Hopefully, you will be able to break away from living with her, so a good amount of detachment toward her will help too.
Yep, I have medical here thru Kaiser and they are getting stricter with sugars, thats why the increase insulin. Its helped.
((((JJ)))) Love you like you love others...Sometimes it takes stuff like this to put the hard focus on yourself and your own health. I'm in support for you doing everything necessary to gain and maintain your entire recovery...mind, body, spirit and emotions. ((((hugs))))
Funny you say that, I was where you were 11 years ago. My heart doctor told me either I leave or I stayed but I would not live to see my children grow up. Gosh. I wished I would have known about Al anon back then. You def need to heal without those things around. Be safe, keep your head up high and take life back for you. HUGS.
-- Edited by InspiredPhotography on Tuesday 28th of August 2012 07:33:22 AM
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Growing up in an alcoholic home though, sometimes it feels like that negative background static noise is just in my DNA. I'll keep coming back
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