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Amandakay


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So, my soon to be ex alcoholic molested my daughter and now has blabbed to everyone who knows us mutually that I am accusing him of this horrible things that he would never do and that we watch porn together... WHAT!!?? First of all, he should have never talked to anyone about it, I sure didn't... why would I want anyone to know about this, and I can't even understand why HE would want anyone to know... anyway, he made himself look bad, besides most people he talked to believed he did it because he would start to mumble and lose his direction when he talked and ... secondly, we've had sex like maybe 10 times in the last year and NO we did not watch porn - and even if we did - what in the world does that have to do with it... he didn't want to have sex with me when he was sober, he always wanted sex when he was drunk... ugh... he just makes me sick! And he sent me a text last night - but I didn't respond - to tell me how much he loves me and my kids and that he would never do anything to hurt us. Ever. And that this has grieved him down to his soul... What crap! He is insane! If he wouldn't drink to the point of blacking out, all the time this wouldn't have happened!!

I am pulling out my tool box... I will not let him ruin my life or my daughters life - or my other children's lives either. This will be overcome... I'm gonna do this one day at a time, and I will practice "Just for today" and "First things First". I can't let the stress of all of this cause me to loose focus on what I need to do. I need to take a bath, my children need to take baths, I have to pay bills, we need to eat, the plants need watering, the animals need to be fed, the house needs to be picked up, dishes need to be done, laundry washed, I have to work, etc, etc,... It is my choice to spiral into a "pity me" kinda attitude and go into a depression BUT I am not gonna do it... I'm gonna keep it simple. I will also spend a whole lot of time with my God. He provides me my sanity. He will direct my paths and He will give me peace!

DAMN YOU ALCOHOL!!



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Insanity in a bottle. I hear you. So sorry, that is what I would consider desperate, telling behavior on his part. Even if he did not do it, acting that way makes everyone suspicious, it would me.

Sounds like you have a fantastic plan there, one day at a time. Hugs, what an awful situation.

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There are no Whys with an addict. They are sick, insane.

This sure proves it.

I would not respond to it at all. If someoone asked me I would say what makes you ask that! I would ignore ignore ignore. Not ad any fuel to it at all. Its just as dumb as him saying he can fly. Why give it any energy.

hugs,debilyn



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SSo sorry you are dealing with this emotional insanity. When I was young I was molested and I went thru some counseling using a great book "wounded hearts". I hope everyone including you are able to get the help you need. Sending you love and support!

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I'm sorry you and your daughter are in this awful situation.  I hope you keep your higher power close as well as your sponsor as you go through this difficult time.    Hugs  TT



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It may be evidence against him (acting insane) if you need it eventually. In recovery, they tell us to keep busy but also to take time for ourselves.

Nancy

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the ex A told everyone but everyone that I was always the problem. It hurt a great deal.  Then I left him and his life fell apart.  So who was the problem after all?

I am so glad you can keep the focus on you.

Maresie.



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Amandakay


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I'm not responding to his BS.... this just goes to show how insane he really is. I'm glad he is out of my life!! I'm gonna look into that book "Wounded Hearts", thanks BreakingFree!

I appreciate everyone's encouragement and positive thoughts and prayers. You guys really mean a lot to me! Thank you!!!

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Ohhhhh I'm so sorry this has happened to your daughter. There is a lot of hope and recovery. Hugs and prayers p

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They always tell everyone how you left him and it was your fault. Don't even listen. If he did what is being suggested he has got way bigger problems. For him to tell others he might have blacked out and doesn't remember and thinks you are out to get him. Be careful... and best wishes.


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