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Still have a storage shed six hours from me but in the town the ex lives and where I was when I left. I have not had the money and or place to move it back here. We both paid on it and I told him a few weeks ago he had until the end of the month to get it all out of there, sell it or give it away I didn't want anything anymore at this point. Never heard from him until the day the payment was due wanting to know if I really wanted to do that. I told him yes that is what I wanted, that it was basically my belongings and I faced the facts and they were material things and I was willing to let it go. I lost my job and getting a small amount from unemployment and it is useless to keep paying. He went nuts screaming at me that I was sitting on money and he was broke (just got paid) and was not going to go without to pay that damn bill. Again I told him, just let it go then and I told him giving him three weeks to get out what he needed - which he never. Well he was texting and swearing and telling me that this was the last straw and we were thru. I told him we had been thru since he told me that he loved me but wanted to drink in peace instead of be together, that I was broke and gave him the time to get it out. He does not care about my situation, just woried about selling the stuff for a few bucks I assume and has three times the money I do, but can't handle paying bills. So next I get - well I'll make you a deal, If you pay the storage so I can get it all removed I will pay for our divorce. What the hell is with him?
Oh my. Reminds me of my ex. "Tell you what, you erase the back child support, I'll take the Master Card bill. Deal?"..... ??????????????? Insanity, can't put reason to it. And sorry to hear things are so hard right now, seems to be the running theme everywhere. Times are so tough. Hugs.
(((JJ))) It's all just choices...you get to say yes or no or maybe something else and still it's just choices. For me I'm sure that my alcoholic/addict wife thought I was the crazy one and while we were apart she was getting sympathy from mutual friends and had them convinced I was the crazy one...All expected and still my choices, options, alternatives are mine without discussion or investigation. "Keep it simple" is one of our best slogans...I memorized it and have practiced that one for a loooong time.
