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Jerry F


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Oksie...I am grateful for this post.  It is an affirmation to all of us who have suffered personality distortion and damage because of sick upbringings.  I will mark this post and come back to it later on and am glad I read it now.  Today I know who I am and also know that i can be someone different; even better if I choose.  I am a multiple and gave let my Higher Power interfer with that disorder and give me permission to be the "one" I am and want to be.   Keep on keeping on and thanks...I'll read again later.   (((((Hugs)))))) smile



-- Edited by Jerry F on Friday 3rd of August 2012 07:16:32 PM

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Hi guys

Some of you may remember... last October I was given a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder.  I was seeking help and when I looked into this... boy did it fit... I just sat and nodded till my head nearly dropped off.  It felt like someone had been following me around my whole life.

I was ready for it though.  For a person wiht my disorder to agree with it, and seek treatment, is rare.  I was seeking ... I came here, I went to a spiritual healer and I went to a clinical psychologist.  Together I had enough insight to realise I was ill.

This disorder, apparently, also reduces over time as the person matures too.  I am now 41 and in a steady enough place in my relationship to look at me.

Anyhooooooo  I have been seeing my psych regularly for 10 months.  She is very happy with my progress and is ready to let me fly free and see how I go. 

She says that I have learned the techniques for controlling my emotions in a healthy way and that she sees me practicing them fairly well.  She commended me for all the very hard work I have put in and doing all the assigned tasks etc.

I know I have worked 150% on this and I can feel the difference, but not inside my head.  Often I still feel really confused.  As they psych said, we haven't made the disorder go away, but I am learning to live with it without destroying myself right now.

In that 10months I have made the revelation of accepting that I was abused as a child.  Who would have thought I didn't actually believe it myself.  But there ya go.  Now I do believe it and I can have compassion for myself and go a bit easier on me. 

There is a reason for the way I am .... and I don't have control over that reason, I didnt cause it as a child, I can't cure it, but I can change my reactions. 

I stil have to do the work every day.  But I feel like I have graduated from my psychologist.

AGain, I want the thank the people here who supported me through many self examinations.



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Congratulations on the progress you and your psychologist feel you've made. Thanks for sharing your good news!  TT



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You do seem immensely more at ease, more confident, and less anxious...Proud of you. Hard work pays off.

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Good Job Oksie

I know how hard you worked and it is obvious that it has paid off

Another Miracle in Progress!!!



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Oh Linda I am so glad you came to MIP. I always enjoyed your shares.

yes you have worked really hard and faced some hard stuff, and there will be more, as that is life.

I love reading your fb. Your life is so exciting. But then you also have such a nice home filled with your animals and your husband!

love,debilyn



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Thanks guys
I have taken to calling this disorder... the Royal We... as i sit and consult the various elements or ages that live inside of me. I have to remember to care for some of them, give boundaries to all, and listen to others and try to aviod them taking control. At the moment we are content, but I am talking to them all the time.
Its a committee... but I am a member of the committee... not only the boss, but a loving team leader
On the bright side... I am never lonely hahahahaha I always have me to keep me company!!!!!

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