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Maybe this is principles over personalities, I had words with mydaughter last night, I found her to be a little harsh and short with me, so I told her that maybe she needs a change of attitude towards people as she seems to have alot of problems alot of the time, I could never do this before but for her sake as well as mine, it helped, I don't remember ever being hugged as a child by my mother, and I don't think an adult ever appollagised to me, I can cuddle anyone easily but not my close family, well I did this morning I just hugged my daughter, and drove her into work, I said I don't always mean things I say in the heat of the moment, and I don't know everything, I make mistakes and always will, but it's nice to share that and work it out together, I love her and she loves me arhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh bless, actions speak louder the words sometimes, I feel good about myself yay.
You showed you can change generational actions by your wisdom and reasoning. That was a great share. My Mother never hugged me either, but I make sure I give lots of hugs to my own daughter. We can take the things that we dont like in other people and vow to never do the same thing. Which makes a change in the next generation and the world. You every hear of the Butterfly effect.???
My mother is a grown up child of an ABF she was always there for me but could not hug me tell me she loved me.
I knew she did but sometimes just needed a hug.
I hugged my children when they were small but as they got older it stopped. then I joined al anon I hug all the time there and slowly it is rubbing off. My children come to me for hugs they are 19 and 16 it does not feel as uncomfortable as it used to thanks to the programme. thank God we are breaking the cycle ,
