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katfshh


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My AF is finally on the East Coast. Phew! I spoke to his ex wife this am. His very close friend, 13 years sober in the program, picked him up. He told her that my AF is a big mess. (Um...I told them this already, but I guess they had to see if for themselves.) His sober friend is trying to get him to detox there. Thank God it's not me this time. I am so peaceful today. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of me. Ahh...

Now I have to get very busy working on me. I KNOW once he is in detox he will reach out to me. When he left I said I wouldn't take a phone call, message, or text for 6 months. I told him that. He may or may not remember, but I want to stick to it for me.

Thanks everyone for your support!!



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Katfshh

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CDK


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Yayayayayay!!!! U deserve a treat!

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pinkchip


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Congrats! You know the pattern...He will probably get it together to some degree and then reach out to you. Stick to your boundaries and make use of the new freedom.

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Chaya


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You can do this!!!

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likemyheart


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Here's a suggestion - if you have something that reminds you how bad it got - use it whenever you need it to keep from giving in. I have a recording of my ex ranting telling me that i'd better get my daughter out of the house because he's coming home and we'd better not be there.

This recording really helped me whenever I would feel the heartstrings tugging.

I'm so sorry you've had to go through this though - we do love our A's, don't we?

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AStrongerMe


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Great news! I think 6 months is great, that's a long time. And the distance is really good too. Hugs, relax!!

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katfshh


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I have video clips of him ranting during the last couple of weeks. They are all on my phone. He didn't even know I was taping him. I needed that for ME!
Thank you again everyone for such great support. I wish I could take a few days off from work to grieve. But, I need my PTO for vacation next month. It's hard to work in labor and delivery and see everyone so happy when I am so sad. But, I am trying to keep my head in the game, and realize that it's all part of live, birth...breakups, etc. ahh...

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Katfshh

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