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It was always so easy for me to fall back on tired and well worn self pity, it's a been really really hard understanding how I got like this and to have faith that no matter what I can overcome the horriblist of things, I am a person that used to put things off that frightened me to tackle head on, all I ever did was think now I just go ahead and do it, i have noticed when I tackle things respectfully I seem to get a very satifying result, one of the hardest things in my marriage has been trying to let go of old hurt, it seems as it continues it just keeps redredging the past, something has to give and I have had to accept it is possible to find a way through with new attitudes, I have noticed I have had to really get honest with myself I was not a nice person on many accasions and provacation was no excuse, it's true to say I shirked alot of responsibility because I was not good at standing up for myself, I also felt that I needed to be liked and couldn't see I was allowing people to take advantage of me, selfo besto, to thine ownself be true.
Thanks for sharing that, Katy! A wonderful reminder that we can put ourselves first and take responsibility for ourselves, as well, and to understand that change for us can be hard too.
Katy, thank you for your share and congrats on taking those steps towards and in recovery because you are worth it!!!!
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Good share! Im working through this as well. It seems that I have surrounded myself with people who reflect my what my inner voice has been saying forever. My exA showed me that I think I am unworthy of love, and now Ive noticed that my friends attitude is that Im stupid....something I always say to myself. I cant change who these people are, and now I reject both ideas. So he is gone, and my friends all seem to be getting frustrated with me and are falling away. Fine, I say. This hurts, but if they all need to go away bexause I refuse to believe these things anymore, fine. Ill make.new friends, starting with myself. (hugs)
I can so relate and I love how you are owning your responsibilities and overcoming old patterns. Great program at work here. Thank you for the share. Sending you love and support!
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