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My 36 year old daughter is an alcoholic with 2 children in the home with her and her boyfriend who is the father of one child. I worry constantly about the kids.
i have tried to make her see the damage the drinking is doing to her and her children. I try not to enable her but I have the children alot because of her being drunk and I fear for them. She blames me alot and thinks i just blow everything out of proportion. Where do I draw the line when it concerns my grandchildren. 12 year old grandson,8 year old grandaughter.
I am so sorry that this dreadful disease of alcoholism has touched your life and the lives of your grandchildren.
The Alanon and Alateen program was formed to help families of alcoholics. There are alanon and alateen face to face meetings in most communities and I would like to suggest that you check out the telephone number in the white pages and call for a schedule.
We believe that alcoholism is a disease and that we did not cause it , cannot cure it and cannot control it. We can find help for ourselves by breaking the isolation in meetings and learning new tools to replace the anger and worry that we now feel.
Hi,Grannylips! I understand what you are going through, both of my children are a/a's, ages 45 and 49, I've been dealing with this ugly disease for 25+yrs. I wish I had gotten involved in alanon yrs ago when it was 1st suggested, I'm sure I would have been saved from a lot of pain.
I'm thankful that I was guided to this program some yrs ago. Currently, it's my daughter that is active in her disease, she has 2 under age children, her 17y.o. lives with her.
After my heart being broken so many times, I finally had to get real serious about my recovery. Her baby's dad finally took her daughter to live with him when she failed to get her enrolled in school when she turned 5, "not a morning person" she says, they now live 4hrs away.
I could go on and on with this, but the only person you can help is you, the kids are hers and there is only so much you can do unless you get legal custody, she will use them to manipulate you to get what she want.
I can't say it strongly enough, go to alanon, get a sponsor and learn how to take are of yourself. I had to learn how to take care of myself, because I had worried and been so obsessed with others that I never thought much about me.
I'm sending a prayer to you and your loved ones, this is a terrible disease and your (HP) God for me will walk with on your journey.
Gettingitright!
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Just go a step at a time, one day at a time. And you'll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford.--A Rogers
Thank you both for your kind and encouraging words and thank you for the prayers. God,my higher power,and I talk alot. I do believe God has a better plan for my daughter and grandchildren.
