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I moved out from my AH 2 years ago...began a new life and tried to maintain some parts of our marriage (like a good friend) . My H has been hospitalized 4 times this year....alcohol related injuries, and hallucinations. Everytime they detox him he goes right back drinking. We're talking about a non functioning, suicidal person....Yesterday he called me and his sister with wild tales of his dead mother showing up etc.
She and I are united in this but we don't know what to do. I suppose I should call 911 again...and tell them he is a danger to himself and they can dry him out-for the 2nd time this month. Or we talked about thenext step of getting him declared incompetent and getting him into a place where he can't hurt himself....
Has anyone ever done that? Any advice wouldbe apprecitated.
I know my Grandmother was sent into a facility like what you are talking about over 30 years ago by her 12 kids and everyone said it was the best thing that ever happened to her, she came out a different person a year later. I do believe they got power of attorney over her. Not sure how my dad and siblings went about it, since he passed away 10 years ago now, but for my Grama she had finally received the help she needed and wouldn't stop and get herself. I come from a long line of drug/alcohol/sexual dysfunctions and it really messes up a family untreated it just runs down the generations. I am so glad I have Al-anon and have dealt with the major dysfuncts within myself. I am sending you love and support!
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My brother had my SIL held in a psychiatric facility for 3 days while she dried out once. This was in Michigan. She could be held against her will (and it WAS against her will) by law. She was a danger to herself with her pill use. It was enough for her to get off those pills. It is different in every state here in the U.S.
I think every state has different laws. I know in California you cannot have anyone committed, unless they verbally say they want to kill themselves. You can have the Police declare him a danger to himself and others but there has to be evidence.
New York is the same, he has to be suicidal. A few years I called 911 and I told them that I thought he was...and they hospitalized in restraints. Here on Long Island there is a Mobil Crisis Unit. I spoke to them but they said I had to get him into the hospital...let them dry him out release him...and THEN they would come to the house for a psych evaluation.
If he was mentally ill they could get him into a Psych hospital.
..A last word, I went to my Friday f2f meeting. I was welcomed back (I thought I didn't need it anymore) warmly and reminded to take care of myself first....He's the one buying the vodka and choosing to drink it. It was so wonderful to have their support...and to be reminded of the principles..and to know that they are there, and experienced in the same thing as me...and so wise....I may cry, now, and I never cry...I'll say it again Thank God for AlAnon. Thank you all for your advice as well...Hugs across the miles from Long Island NY Jayne
